(Closed) How should I RSVP?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

If she is super duper traditional- then I think (please correct me if I’m wrong") then you are supposed to handwrite on your stationary whether or not you are attending.

I;m very interested to hear what *really* is the protocol on this one 

Post # 4
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

A few of my declines wrote a note saying they are sorry, but they will not be able to attend.  Some of them continue into excuses, but I hate excuses.  You don’t need to tell me WHY your not coming. If you can’t make it, you can’t make it.  And don’t forget to put your name on it LOL

Also a few of the people who declined bought a wedding card and inserted money in it along with the RSVP card declining.  Of course, that means my stamp for the RSVP was never used, but, oh well, they did send a gift!

Post # 5
133 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2008

Indeed, that is also my understanding.  If there is no RSVP "card" included, you’re supposed to write a note yourself.

Post # 6
18 posts

Well, according to Peggy Post:

“Just answer yes or no, short and sweet,” she said. “If you want to give a brief reason, fine.”

If it were me, I would write a short note like:

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! Unfortunately I am unable to attend. I’ll be thinking of you and Bob, and wish you both the very best! Sincerely, Me


But that is just my $0.02. 🙂

Post # 7
629 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2005

Old school: A note on personalized stationery saying you won’t be able to make it and a congratulatory message. Not only will you make their day by being on time, but you’ll look good too.

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