(Closed) How should I spend Easter?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How should I spend Easter?
    With my family. : (14 votes)
    39 %
    With his mom. : (1 votes)
    3 %
    With just each other and blow off the parents. : (4 votes)
    11 %
    Split the time and let the parents be disappointed. : (17 votes)
    47 %
  • Post # 3
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    3572 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Not sure if this is an option.. but why don’t you visit your family for the weekend and he stay with his mom so she’s not alone at Easter?

    Post # 4
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    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’d split the time.  Your Future Mother-In-Law is being a bit unreasonable.  You have two sets of parents to spend time with, not just her.  Plus, you are living with her and see her all the time.

    I think you guys going to mass on Saturday and then going to your parents is being more than reasonable.

    Post # 5
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    2212 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Even though his mom only has him to celebrate with, she’s going to have to learn to share now that you’re in the picture.  If it were me, I would follow the plan you’ve already made:  Saturday mass with his mom and then drive down for Easter with your family, which your Fiance agreed to.

    I get from FMIL’s perspective that it’s kind of pointless to her for you to attend a mass that blesses the food you’re not eating the next day, but the real point is that you’ll be spending time together, isn’t it?

     

    Post # 6
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    2555 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    go visit your family on your own, and your Fiance can stay to celebrate with his

    Post # 7
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    2849 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Parents always want their children with them on holidays, but you can’t please everyone. I say you go to your mom, since you already promised her, and tell his mom you will make it up with another holiday. Maybe you can spend Easter and Thanksgiving with you mom and 4th of July (or something she cares about) and Christmas with his mom. They both need to learn that they can’t have you and your Fiance all the time. 

    Post # 8
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    248 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @futuremrsmp: +1

     

    If that’s an option, I would split up for Easter as well. That’s what Fiance and I are doing anyway, since it’s our last unmarried Easter before we have to stress every year over where to spend the holidays.

     

    If that isn’t an option, I would split the time and just let people be disappointed. You’re really being fair in doing that.

     

    Post # 9
    Hostess
    16195 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Would his mom be willing to travel with you guys to spend the day with your family?

    Post # 10
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    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    You two already made the commitment to spend Easter with your family, so I think your initial plan to go to Saturday mass with his mother and then go to see yours. Sounds like his mom is just pouting and hoping she can get her way by saying if you’re not going to give her all the time she wants to not even bother with a compromise. Since the two of you are engaged now is a good time to sort out how you’ll spend holidays. Alternating is always a good idea because it leaves the least amount of negotiating, it’s simply a matter of whose turn it is. 

     

    I disagree with the advice for the two of you to split up on Easter – you’re going to be married soon and it’s a good time to start acting as a unit. Holidays are about family, so it seems quite silly to not spend it with your soon-to-be husband! And it jsut gets even more complicated when children come along.

     

    Post # 11
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    2457 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Split your time. They’re lucky you’re even considering it right now; there will come a day when you just don’t care about making everyone happy anymore, and you’ll just stay home with him instead of drive everywhere. They’re going to have to get used to the fact that the other family is just as important as they are!

     

    Post # 12
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    433 posts
    Helper bee

    @mrschmura:  do your families get along? Maybe you could bring his mom to spend Easter with your family if she’s all alone.

    Post # 13
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    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Do Saturday mass with his mom and then drive to your parents for Easter Sunday. It is more than fair, considering you made plans with your family first. Can you do a lunch with your Future Mother-In-Law on Saturday?

    Post # 14
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    9675 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I say go to your parents.  You made plans first and you don’t see them much.  You live with his mom, you see her all the time.  Maybe you can have lunch Saturday with her instead of Sunday.

    Post # 15
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    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Go to your parents as enjoy the last easter as an ‘unmarried’ person.  Let Fiance stay at home and celebrate with his mom.  Think of it as the last concentrated holiday with your family.

    You’ll have the rest of your life to figure out how to share holidays… and, let me tell you, it’s NOT fun!

     

     

    Post # 16
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    7211 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I would either go Saturday with Future Mother-In-Law & have an EARLY breakfast, then head to your parents or have Future Mother-In-Law go with you to your family’s celebration. 

    My sister’s Future Mother-In-Law never does anything with her family so she’s always invited to our big family gatherings. 

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