(Closed) How should I word an invitation for an OOT Dinner that I can’t go to?

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Why don’t you do a brunch or something BEFORE the rehearsal for those in the wedding party and then after the rehearsal have the Out of Town dinner?

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

If it works out, I know of several couples who combined the Out of Town dinner with the rehearsal dinner.  (My poor Boyfriend or Best Friend was baffled the first time he went to a wedding that wasn’t set up like that.  I had to explain that rehearsal dinners are usually for the people at the rehearsal.)

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Why not just make the Out of Town dinner your rehearsal dinner?  That is what we are doing.  We will rehearse at our venue, and then show up to the Out of Town dinner a little bit after the guests arrive.  If this is not an option, then I would word the invitations to the Out of Town, “Please come celebrate at…”  Something that does not mention “us” since you won’t be there for long.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Can you do a casual welcome reception after the RD?  That’s what we did, as well as several other weddings we’ve attended this year.  You can do your Rehearsal Dinner as planned, but then invite Out of Town guests somewhere for wine and desserts (or whatever) for an hour or two afterwards.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I just don’t like the idea of hosting an Out of Town dinner w/o the bride and groom there. I feel the point of it is for the TWO OF YOU to be welcoming them in, not just giving them dinner. Can you maybe do a day after brunch or something? I just know personally that I would feel weird coming in from out of town, being invited to a dinner and then the bride and groom only making an appearance.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

Are you looking for alternative ideas? Or really just for wording? Because I don’t have any ideas… just a wording suggestion.

If I were making invites for something like this, I would write them in the following way:

“Don’t have plans for December 10? A dinner has been arranged for out of town guests arriving early at [location, time, etc.]. JLDown and Fiance hope to stop by later in the evening, and would love to see you there!”

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You could have the invite state ” FMIL’s name is hosting a dinner for those who are from out of town….”. Is it possible that everyone could meet up after the dinners so that it would be one large group. It doesn’t have to be at any rented place it could be at a nice bar in the area. That way everyone would get to socialize.

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