Post # 1
Hi Bees! Long time, no post. Things are crazy – I’m sure you all know how that goes!
Anyway, to make things even crazier, FI and I have decided to push UP the wedding (and no, I’m not pregnant) from September to June. We’re also going to have a private, family only ceremony.
However, we want to have a big, relaxed, “open house” style reception after. It’s going to be in a family member’s backyard. They have a nice inground pool that will be open. We plan on setting up a few sets of cornhole boards (FI and his family are kinda obsessed) and having food and drinks for everyone.
That’s the type of people we are – laid back. And we have the most fun when we are surrounded by friends and family in a party atmosphere. So we figured that is what our wedding should be like as well. Takes the pressure of everything being perfect away and truly lets us enjoy our day. Also, this way we’ll be able to have some money left when we’re done – and that’s even with taking a honeymoon, which we weren’t able to do with our previous plans.
All that said – how in the world do I word the invitation??
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
You will need a separate invitation for the wedding and for the reception. As for wording, just avoid the heavy traditional phrases like “request the honour of your presence.” I’d probably get on weddingpaperdivas.com or some similar website and take the wording from an invitaiton you like.
Post # 4
I’m having a reception only since I already got married at the court. my invites said “name+name
please join us as we celebrate our marriage”
Post # 5
@KatyLovesJoey: Agreed – I handled the paper suite fdor a bride who did this. We did the big invitation and gave them the time and the venue for the dinner, dancing and merriment. It was an invite to the “celebration of the marriage of” and then we made a smaller information card that was titled ceremony – this card had the ceremony information.
Please note – that the people who get this card will probably not know that everyone else did not get this card. She had one family out of town who got a card (an Aunt I think) and the children of the Aunt (who lived in town did not get one. The Aunt then just told them all of the information and told the mother of the bride that they must have forgotten to put a Ceremony card in her kid’s envelope.
It was resolved with a phone call or two but just try to make sure that the people invited aware of how small of an event this will be.
Post # 6
@mrsSonthebeach: Yea, I already figured I’d be doing two different invites.
@suburbian – thank you for the example!
Post # 7
I went to a Wedding (Reception actually) that was exactly like this a few years back. The Bride just wanted the two sets of Parents there, and sibs on both sides. One sib from each side stood up as the Maid/Matron of Honor & Best Man.
I agree with suburbian: and the info she has supplied.
To get the idea across that it is a Celebration / Back Yard Pool Party – BBQ thing look to having your Invite suite reflect the relaxed element (the sample above is a good one… in this case they used the Guitars to kind of express that).
While the Ceremony Invite itself is still done in a matching “casual style”… BUT the 2 colour layout, and wording makes it clearly a tad more formal… so those who are invited to the Ceremony still know it is a “serious” part of the day… just small and intimate (family only)
Of course there can be some confusion for some Guests (even hard feelings “Hey WHY aren’t we invited ?”). So expect lots of Questions.. of yourself, your Groom, and to the Moms & Dads… and maybe spread the word (by word of mouth… or on your Wedding Website if you are having one) that this is your wish… small, intimate, family only.
That should help prevent an Auntie who takes things into her own hands as per the above example and inviting folks to the Ceremony “cause you obviously forgot”
Hope this helps,
PS… There are great posts here on WBee about some wonderful Backyard Receptions… one that comes to mind, is the one that Blogging Bee Mrs Dragon held in the Fall of 2012.
Mrs Dragon = http://www.weddingbee.com/author/msdragon/#axzz2OaBTGj00
Post # 8
@This Time Round: Thanks! Anyone we’ve talked to about it has only had one question – “Are you pregnant??” which is why I noted it specifically in my orginal post!
Post # 9
TO @KatyLovesJoey: lol, ya “the manners” of some people *Rolls Eyes*
(As an Etiquette Snob… I would NEVER answer such a Question… and it wouldn’t be past me to tell them that is was inappropriate to ever ask such a personal Question)
If an Intimate Wedding is your wish… then so be it.
WHY is really no-one’s business (unless YOU choose to share)
I’d just let anyone who asked what’s going on with the Wedding Ceremony part… that you’ve chosen to have a small intimate Ceremony… or that it is happening at different time (which is the truth).
Ya because it ain’t “the norm” for what folks are used to, it is going to raise Questions and eyebrows… but that is more their issue than it ever will be yours.
IF they have a huge issue with it they no doubt won’t come to the Celebration Party… in which case it’ll be no big deal… because they obviously aren’t respectful of your wants & feelings.
Hang tough (( HUGS ))