How small was your guest list? Regrets?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We had a small semi-destination wedding.  We invited aunts and uncles but not cousins and everyone seemed to understand.  We had about 18 at the ceremony and 14 (we invited like 30-40 although we knew some wouldn’t be able to make it but wanted to extend the invitation just in case) at the reception.  We also wanted to make sure we had a nice dinner reception and knew we couldn’t do that with a ton of people.  We had an absolute blast and we were able to spend good time with everyone who came so we have no regrets! 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We had 27 people at our wedding including us and we have no regrets. We feared it would be boring and no one would talk to each other and it would be awkward but it was an amazing night. Everyone commented they felt honoured to be invited when it was a small wedding.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We are planning a small wedding (less than 30) and I love the idea of how intimate it will be. No one worrying about being too far away to hear the vows, no one being neglected at the wedding, no one worried about what impression they might accidently make and when…

I’ve read a few threads on here about small weddings and a lot of people say that a small wedding is not necessarily an intimate wedding– it is all about the feel you plan it with.

That all being said, my mom had a wedding with 200+ when she married my dad and my Aunt and Uncle had a wedding of 14. I asked both of them lots of questions and my parents felt like they had a party while my Aunt and Uncle felt like they had a family get-together. I wanted the latter.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We are having close to 200 people, and wish almost everyday that we could have a small wedding. If you want to share the day only with the people closest to you, and can get away with it without causing major family drama etc, I say go for it.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We had only 15 people as well bc we chose building a house over a wedding. I honestly never dreamed of a big wedding anyways. I don’t regret it now nor will I ever. You couldn’t pay me to have a large wedding.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2012

My guest list is about 40.  I always wanted small, I actually wanted smaller but it didn’t fly with Fiance.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We had a small 40 person wedding with only parents grandparents, siblings and our very best friends. I personally would not of had it any other way, as we wanted people there who if in emergancy was to happen would be the first people we would call (thats how we looked at it) It was perfect for us, we got talk to everyone, eat, dance, and have fun and we truly enjoyed ourselves. I will give you one fair warning however: beware of childish family members who do not understand your wedding wishes. You have to stick your decision and do not wavier on it.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Our guest list is about 80 people, so I imagine that we’ll have about 50-60 people.  The only thing I hate is that 90% of those people are family.  We don’t have room to invite more than like 10 friends.  🙁

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@Ellis2bee: Ain’t that the truth! I still hear snide remarks almost 3 years later. I feel so sorry for such judgmental people but then at the same time so elated I didn’t share my special day with them.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had 21 or so guests and do not regret a thing! We had a llovely dinner, and it was the most amazing day and night ever

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Jenofdnile:

I’m so glad you asked this question! I just got engaged and already hearing the drama from people. It’s amazing because I think it’s the longest convo I’ve had with these opinionated people in the 5 1/2 years we’ve been together lol.

My brother is having a rather large destination wedding. They wish every day that they would have gone with there gut and had a small intimate wedding.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We are having a small destination wedding with 35-40 people & I couldn’t be happier. If I could have it a little bit smaller I would, but this is as small as we could get it. We want a close intimate wedding with family and friends and I am happy this is the route we are taking. =]

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We are having less than 50 people and I have no regrets! It’s just family and a few friends, and it will be great. Plus, it’s a morning wedding and we can leave early without feeling like we didn’t talk to everyone. I’m so excited!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We had a small wedding (40 people) and were able to have an intimate ceremony and nice luncheon reception where we could talk with everyone and mingle in such a relaxing and loving environment. 

Originally we were only going to have about 25-30 guests including our parents, siblings, grandparents, and a handful of friends, but his mom and dad FLIPPED out and said they wanted their sister and brothers and all of his cousins there too (that’s another 40+ people).  I had to be very firm and tell them that there was no way the cousins were coming, but that if they wanted his aunts and uncles there then they would need to help pay. 

The extended family completely understood…. or at least no one has taken the time to tell me otherwise.  His parents were rocky at the start and I had to be extremely firm with them, but I did not budge and he stuck by me as we made the decision for our wedding’s guest list.

I have no regrets about our small wedding.  It enabled us to stay within our budget while not having to cut corners.  We were able to mingle with all of our guests and not feel rushed.  Since everyone was family, it was like a mini-family reunion for all of them too — which was really nice.  I highly advise doing a small dinner reception.  Just be sure both you and the finance are on the same page and stick together if someone objects.  Good luck!!

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