Post # 1
We’ve been married three months & we haven’t seen a whole lot of our friends since the wedding. Our house is usually a hub for entertainment but this last year we’ve done so much entertaining we just want a break.
We were kindly invited to dinner at our good friends tonight. They raved at how much they loved our wedding & everything about it. Then they just asked, so ‘ when are you having kids?’. Ha I said I’m clearly not pregnant as I’m drinking wine. Husband’s mum mentioned grand kids in the weekend – husband is an only child and she’s dying for some. My sister & sister in law are pregnant with 8th & 9th grand kids right now so my family are too distracted to ask.
I’m 33 in September so clearly we want kids very soon but I start a new job in two weeks. I want to be there at least a year before I go on a years maternity leave.
So when or how soon did you get pressure after the wedding to have kids from family and friends?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
We started getting asked immediately after returning from our two week honeymoon
Post # 3
We started getting asked before we were married, at the wedding, and shortly after. I thought it was annoying but I think marriage just provokes people to ask about kids. Anyways we have been married 4 and a half years and are now pregnant with our first baby…..and already getting asked when we think we will have our second. The questions never end it seems. Just do what is right for you. When people ask you could say ” some day, or not right away as we want to enjoy married life” that usually worked for me when people asked.
Post # 4
We’ve been married a year and we are only just starting to get joking comments from our families, or “do you guys want kids some day?” questions. No one has said anything to us before recently. Although we got married at 24 so neither us nor our families are in too much of a rush. We will probably wait another 2 years to have kids.
Post # 5
Pretty much at the reception we started getting questions. When I got back from my honeymoon my boss said well I assume you’ll be going on maternity leave in the next year 😳
Post # 6
missviolet92 : I am getting married next year so this doesn’t apply to me yet, but it will. My sister got married in May. She got asked THE DAY AFTER THE WEDDING! Luckily it was by Mum’s best friend who she adores, but still, really rude and way too quick to be asking!
Post # 7
Never. I think. I can’t recall ever being asked. My family knows I am CFBC. His family at least never asked me. Maybe my husband. I’ll have to ask someday. Granted we’ve been only married 2.5 half month and I am European from a major city so kids aren’t a big topic with my friends. And then the question also would be “do you want kids?” Not “when”!
Post # 8
We’re not married yet and my Future Mother-In-Law already informed us that she’s done the math, and if we get pregnant now our child would be the perfect age for a flower girl or ring bearer! Haha! So it’s already begun with us. Sigh.
Post # 10
I’m only engaged and people have started asking. My sister got asked about it literally during her wedding. And both of us got/are getting married at 25-ish.
My family is very traditional and thinks that marriage = kids. I personally want to feel more financially stable in life before kids (at least 3 or 4 years from marriage), as it’s a huge never-ending responsibility. You just can’t tell the kid to go off and survive on his own.
Post # 11
At the wedding reception, if not sooner.
Post # 12
We haven’t even had the wedding yet and we get asked already all the time. FH’s mom even offered to pay for our honeymoon if we come back pregnant! She was joking…sort of lol.
Post # 13
Lol, people asked about our future plans after we got engaged. We also got asked when we got back from our honeymoon. We assumed it’s a cultural thing, but from this thread, it appears to be universal.
Post # 14
My Mother-In-Law asked 2 days after the wedding if I was pregnant.
And then the pressure was on from them – my side of the family didn’t ask but his side would nag all the time. His grandmother would say “so do you think I’ll get to see a grandchild before I die?”… sigh.
Post # 15
I think we were lucky! No one mentioned it to us directly. We ended up announcing my pregnancy right around our 1 year wedding anniversary…pretty sure if I hadn’t been pregnant by then people would have started asking, as I’m 32 and dh is 37.