How soon after getting married did people start mentioning kids?

posted 4 months ago in Babies
Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Right away. In fact some of the ladies I worked with at the time were talking about my babies before I even got married. 

I’ve been trying since October 2016 had to have a laparoscopy to get rid of endometriosis. Everyone knows this. I still sometimes have people say “well if someone would just have a baby already…” and looks directly at me. I’ve started telling them “You’re being extremely rude. You KNOW I’m trying.”

Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

As soon as we got engaged and practically daily since! lol

Post # 33
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle

Immediately, and even more so now that I’ve finished my schooling (we’ve been married 4 years). I’m getting pretty annoyed, TBH.

Post # 34
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Honey bee

People asked us AT the wedding. 

My mom has been pressuring us for years though lol. 

Post # 35
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

How soon after getting married? Negative 2 years!

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee

Interestingly, Darling Husband (my first time referring to him by that term!!!) has been asked multiple times by his male (engaged and married) friends.

And I have yet to be asked. 

There have been the casual jokes (At the wedding “now get out of here and go make a baby!”), but no serious questions directed at me or us as a couple. 

But mostly, our friends are all engaged or married, and the subject has come up organically in conversations with most of them.

We plan to start TTC around the one year mark. It feels weird to actually be on the count down now – I actually ordered the Ava bracelet earlier today!

Post # 37
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Years before the wedding, at the wedding, after the wedding.  From our parents, siblings, aunts, cousins, friends… its never-ending.  

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

On my wedding day, the videographer did interviews with Darling Husband and I, as well as close family. My father said how excited he was for more grandkids. He hadn’t even walked me down the aisle yet! Since then, it’s been pretty constant.

My side of the family has one grandchild, but my younger sibling is single, and my older sibling has said they’re not going to have any more kids. On DH’s side, his younger sibling is younger and got married two months after us, so the pressure is on Darling Husband. We hear it at every family gathering. It doesn’t bother me now, because we aren’t trying, but we have some medical issues that may prevent pregnancy in the future, so I worry that they’ll continue pressuring us, and later on I’ll be hugely sensitive to it if I’m in the midst of fertility struggles.

Right now I tend to pretend I don’t hear it, or I say, “In two years.” My answer stays the same, even though we’ve been married nearly a year now. That’s my strategy. No matter who asks or when they ask, I’ll have the same timeline answer that never updates. I know someone else who took this approach, and eventually people stop asking.

Post # 39
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Buzzing bee

Immediately! Actually they may have started asking before the wedding. But it’s never really bothered me, I just laugh and tell them we’re too busy to even keep a plant alive right now. 

Post # 40
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Bumble bee

The moment we got engaged.

Actually, my grandma asked before we got engaged. I’m CFBC but I don’t want to tell her that so I’m just pretending that it just hasn’t happened yet and hope people don’t press because they know I have family with fertility issues. But with my grandma she asked a few months before we got engaged. I told her that I wouldn’t even think about that before being married and she responded with “I’m progressive”… I didn’t know how to react…

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

The day after the wedding…. Sigh.

Post # 42
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

my best friends parents asked me when we’d start TTC during the cocktail hour at our wedding. lol.  So.. that’s when it started. 😛

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We were being pressured before the wedding. lol. We had been together a really long time so that might be why though. It doesn’t end once you have a baby either. They will want to know when the next one is coming.

Post # 44
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Helper bee

SO and I aren’t even engaged and we get asked. yell

Post # 45
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Busy bee

Started years before the wedding actually.

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