(Closed) How soon after the RSVP date do I…

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How soon should I start contacting non-responders?
    Anytime after the RSVP date : (11 votes)
    42 %
    3 (mailing) days after the RSVP date : (7 votes)
    27 %
    1 week after the RSVP date : (8 votes)
    31 %
    more than 1 week after RSVP date (please explain) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    551 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think you are good anytime after, but I also know stragglers, so I voted 3 days after… 🙂 

    Post # 4
    Member
    200 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I treated my RSVP date like a postmark deadline, so I waited a week before contacting non-responders.

    Post # 5
    Member
    7872 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    So long as you go about it politely, I think any of those answers is ok.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2282 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We started 2 days after. And there were so many who were like “Oh, yeah, I just put that in the mail yesterday…”

    Which means they were going to be late. Whatever. Most of those actually put it in the mail the morning after we called, from what I could tell. 

    Hardly anybody actually puts theirs in the mail on the last possible day, so any that you don’t have are going to need chasing down because they’ve totally blanked on it or don’t care. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    2974 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    we had over 80 people who hadn’t resonded, so i started bugging people the day after. a few said their response was in the mail, but most of them had completely forgotten and several were hard to reach/took their sweet time getting back to me so i’m glad we didn’t wait.

    Post # 8
    Member
    719 posts
    Busy bee

    I started immediately….I was probably kind of annoying about it, but I felt that 6 weeks was more than enough time for people to decide if they were coming and respond accordingly.  

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