(Closed) How soon did you change your name?

posted 5 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: How soon did you change your name?
    I always intended to change it, and started the process immediately. : (137 votes)
    66 %
    I always intended to change it, but I just haven't gotten around to it. : (37 votes)
    18 %
    I never planned to change it, and I didn't. : (30 votes)
    14 %
    I never planned to change it, but changed my mind and did it anyway. : (3 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4284 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I changed mine when we got back from the honeymoon. I was nervous about passport issues since we went to Mexico.

    Post # 4
    Member
    2719 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I changed it as soon as we got back from the honeymoon. I didn’t have a job, so I went and sat in the SS office and did that, and then went to the DMV to change it. I think I could change my driver’s license before I got back my SS card, so I got those done right away. Then it was changing over credit cards and other things.

    Post # 5
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    4152 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    To answer your question, we got married September 15, left the country for our honeymoon on September 16, got home from our travels on October 5, and my name was changed a week later.  It’s not fun, but I just had to put aside a day to do it.  It was more time-consuming calling all my credit card/bank accounts and changing my name there than it was to deal with the social security office or DMV.  You just have to put aside the time to do it.  And as an aside, my SS card arrived within a week, even though they said it would take longer. 

    If you don’t want to change your name, I think that’s fine, but you just have to be honest with your DH.  I think the reason he may be upset is because you said you were going to. My DH would have been upset if I had been telling him the whole time that I planned to change my name and then changed my mind after we got married.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1116 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I got married in Sept too and I changed mine at the end of December.  I still have to make the switch on my credit cards but my banks, license, social security card, atm cards are already changed.  My DH didn’t care though that I took 3 months to do it, well he didn’t let on that he cared…… 🙂

    Post # 7
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    1564 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I also got married in September and I was honest with my DH and told him that I wasn’t sure about changing it. We also had a delayed honeymoon and the tickets had to be booked in my maiden name so I told DH that I would consider changing it after the honeymoon. As time has gone by, I am less and less interested in changing my name. I love my name and have always loved it and I don’t feel any less “married” by keeping it. When people ask me what I’m planning to do, I just say nothing for now. I might reconsider when we have children, but for now, I’m keeping my name the same until it feels right. If it never feels right, then I won’t do it.

    Post # 8
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    8428 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    After we got back from the honeymoon I started the process bc I needed my passport for the honeymoon! I currently have everything changed…..just waiting on the last step the passport to come back!!

    Post # 9
    Member
    1659 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We got married in August and I just went to the SSA to do the change last week. DH hasn’t really said anything, and I don’t really want to change my name, but I know it’s important to him so I did it. I don’t know I’d I’ll ever get used to being called by that name, though. I’m really attached to my given name and have yet to introduce myself or refer to myself with the married name.

    It sounds like your DH really takes the name change seriously…idk, just do it and keep your business name and everything the same. You don’t have to change your entire identity, but the legality of it will make him happy.

     

    Post # 12
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    964 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Hi ladies. I do plan to change my name… especially since he and the boys have the same last name and I’m the odd person out! I’m in the process of selling a house though and all the paperwork is in my maiden name. I DO NOT want to fill all that out again and he totally understands that. I’m hoping it will close next month and then I’ll have to take a day off to finally get that paperwork going.

    For what it’s worth, I sign all the kids school stuff with my “married” name Laughing

    Post # 13
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    2390 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I changed mine the day after we got back from our honeymoon (so 8 days after the wedding).  I know everyone says that you need the SS card first, but I didn’t need it for anything.  What I needed was the marriage certificate.  Once I got that I changed my license and bank accounts, then went to Social Security.  You have to send your passport away by mail, so I also did that immediately because that one’s really important.  Everything else I just did bit by bit over the next few days on the phone and online.  

    The initial stuff only took me a couple of hours, but I have an advantage because I live downtown Chicago and all the offices are within a few blocks of each other.

    Post # 14
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    4152 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @starfish0116:  You’ve mentioned that the SS office closes at 3pm every day (and noon on another) – do you work a job that makes it not feasible for you to get there during those hours?  He may be getting upset about it because it’s been 5+ months since the wedding, so, while the SS office is a pain to go to, if it’s not impossible, he may be feeling like you’re just not making the time to do it.  That’s just a thought since you said it seems to be bothering him more and more as time goes on.  Maybe just set aside a day to do it and even though the drive and wait at the office aren’t fun, then it’ll be done.

    Post # 15
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    4282 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I started mine as soon as the honeymoon was over – our SS office closes at 3, too, so I used a few hours of sick leave and went in one afternoon.

    I still haven’t done a few things – passport comes to mind (I need a new picture taken) and my business account. Most has been done though. Once SS and DMV were out of the way, I’ve just been doing it slowly as I go along.

    Post # 16
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    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    my marriage cert took 6 weeks to arrive, so when it did arrive (finally, and it was only a certified copy too!) I changed my name on everything.

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