(Closed) How soon did you have a baby after being married?

posted 11 years ago in Babies
Post # 32
Member
2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Only you and your husband will know when the time is “right”. Other people’s opinions are just that. They don’t know what’s going on in your relationship so I was hear them but don’t run your life based off of their expectations.

As for us, after we got married we had the whatever happens attitude towards pregnancy. We’ve been together for 4 years, we had careers, already co-habited. In short, it was a good time in our life. So it happened. We got pregnant just 2 weeks after the wedding and both of us definitely do not regret it. It is another step in our relationship and we are ready and excited.

Post # 33
Member
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Everyone is different.  We will have been married 15-16 months when we expect to become parents but we definitely would have waited had we been younger.  There are benefits to both, so definitely weigh the options.  Maybe get some traveling done which together, live together, etc…

Post # 34
Member
2206 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We plan on waiting 5-7 years to have a child. I just turned 27, Fiance is 34. I am in my 5th month of work as an attorney, and want to wait until I have a more established career. My mom is planning on moving out here as well, but they aren’t ready to retire. I really don’t want to have a child with no family around.

Post # 35
Member
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

we want to have kids as soon as possible, I am 39  my husband is 28, we have been married 4 months now, been off the pill since last year but it’s been difficult especially since we were long-distance 2 years, even the second month of our marriage ay, ay ay, then I needed time to adjust to Europe, so hopefully soon now that we are with each other every day and I am more adjusted, cross my fingers!!!

 

we already did all our travelling and partying, although  I wish we could have more time as a married couple, I’d rather make sure we have a baby especially with my age, good luck to us and evryone here!!!

Post # 36
Member
177 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My fiance and I plan on waiting a while. When we get married I’ll be 24 and he’ll be 27. I love kids, don’t get me wrong, but I want time with my husband. We’ve had a long distance relationship for the past year or so since I’ve been finishing up school.

We plan on spending a lot of time together–also, we need to build up our funds, we barely have enough money as it is, no use bringing a child into the mix when we won’t be able to afford things like diapers. He and I talked about and probably when I’m around 30 we’ll start trying for kids.

Post # 37
Member
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

Our baby is due several days before our one year anniversary.  However, we have been together 8.5 years, lived together for 5 and have shared our lives as if we were husband and wife for a very long time.  I can honestly say that absolutely nothing changed in our relationship after we got married, nor did I expect it to.  I think that if you can, its a good idea to have some time for just the two of you before you have babies.  We just happened to have that time before we were technically married. 

Post # 38
Member
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Sounds like everyone jumped right in 🙂 I am only 23, been with da man for 6 years BUT I am just finishing grad school this year and really want to wait like 7 years! After reading all the baby buzz I feel like it will be hard to hold off, but I do want to put in time for my career and my self (not to mention paying off those student loans…), think I can do it?

Post # 39
Member
1675 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I originally thought I would wait 5+ years to have kids after marriage.  I also thought I would get married in my mid-20s, not almost 30, like it has ended up.  So now we’re thinking of trying to get me preggers after only a year or so of marriage (maybe even less??).  There are a lot of really bad times career-wise for me to get pregnant, but the next year or 2 might be a relatively good time actually (in terms of job responsibilities, ability to get time off, not sacrificing my ability to be promoted, etc.)

Post # 40
Member
2025 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My husband and I have been together since high school, but always said we’d wait until we were 25 to marry (check) and then maybe start trying around 27 or 28. I’ll be 27 later this year, and I could see us actually start trying then if it weren’t for the economy. We are in construction in central FL, so everything is pretty shaky right now. We both really want to feel comfortable financially (we already make decent money together, but the future is uncertain) before trying. I’m getting a mild baby fever and I think he is too. We’re just avoiding the topic for now because we both know it’s just not the right time. 

Post # 41
Member
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

We were together about 4 years when we got married.  Being in our early 30s we didn’t want to wait long but we did want to enjoy being newlyweds before we started a family.  We waited about a year! for me, if we had gotten married in our 20s I would have probably waited 2 years, but it so depends on what you want!

Post # 42
Member
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

We’re gonna wait until ALMOST two years. We just got married in December, so everytime I see a baby and its mother, its almost like it taunts me. lol. 🙂 

Post # 43
Member
3282 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Hubby and I decided we’d probably wait 1-2 years before ttc.  If anything, we may wait longer depending on job stuff =)

Post # 44
Member
181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

we were married nov 2006 and we’re expecting our first may 2010.

Post # 45
Member
19 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am 28, he is 35.  We are planning on waiting 2-3 months.  We’re not going to actively try at first, but just stop trying NOT to get pregnant.  I can’t wait, I have some major baby fever!

Post # 46
Member
1327 posts
Bumble bee

If next year goes as planned we will be waiting 3 to 4 years, but it it doesn’t go as planned it could be much much longer. Though we are in our early (well almost mid) 20’s right now so thats ok. Most of our friends are already onto their 2nd baby, a few are on their third… its insane.

The topic ‘How soon did you have a baby after being married?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors