(Closed) How soon did you know your SO was "the one"?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

There was no Moment for me, more like a gradually evolving friendship.  I was in the midst of a traumatic divorce from an abuser at the time.

I did pick up early on that he was & is a problem solver by nature & that did something for me.

Post # 17
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Helper bee

Madeline789:  I knew on the first date, and Darling Husband said he knew over the phone. Our first phone conversation came a couple of months after we first met, and we both had an inkling then that something was so uncanny and different. However, the first date was when I think we both knew that we were in for the long haul. It was sort of a feeling like “this is the person I’ve been looking for, and I have no plans to let them get away”. A little cheesy, but was a pretty neat experience. We both kept a level head about it for a few months, but those feelings never really wavered.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Madeline789:  After a few months, I was ready to go! Five years later, he popped the question.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Neither of us knew right away…I would say that it took a few years. We were really young when we started dating, though (18/19), so neither of us were in the mindset to even be THINKING about marriage. If I had stepped back and really thought about it, maybe I would have realized, but it wasn’t even on my radar.

I think we both realized that this was it when we were seniors in college (we had been together since freshman year) and were deciding our plans after graduation. He decided to follow me 450 miles to a city he had barely spent any time in. I think, at that time, I knew that this was very serious and that he was likely the person I was going to marry. Still, though, it took probably 6 months of living together to be absolutely sure.

We both laugh because we certainly didn’t think when we hooked up freshman year of college that we’d be marrying each other 7 years later.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I loved him early on but I am young. I wasn’t until about a year in when our family had 2 major deaths and another big crisis that I knew. I wasn’t a fun person to be around for months. I cried a lot and didn’t sleep and had a lot of anxiety. Without him I don’t think I could have gotten through it. You don’t learn who someone is when life is easy. 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We got on like gangbusters pretty much immediately – but I don’t remember a moment – however I do know that we were discussing “when we get married” and “when we have kids” – not “if” – by two months in. We were both really sure right off the bat.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Madeline789:  I knew there was something more to him before we ever even came close to hanging out, and after our 5th time hanging out, we had this straight-out-of-a-movie kiss on the (really) high swings with fireworks in the background.  

We hadn’t really held hands yet (but we had kissed before)- but we clasp hands as soon as we got off those swings.  That was it.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I had a little crush on my Fiance (we worked together), but we had never said more then 2 words to each other…I would jokingly refer to him as my “husband” when talking about him to my roommates, but I never thought anything would come of it. He was in his late 20s and I was still in college, so I assumed he was already married, or at least spoken for. It was just fun to have a reason to look forward to going to work! Unbeknownst to me, the crush was mutual. He finally asked me out after working together for about 4 months. During our first date, we both knew we had something special. He is more of a hopeless romantic and I am much more of a logical thinker, so it took me a while to open up, but we were discussing marriage and kids by month 2. It never occured to either of us that we would ever NOT be together.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I knew maybe a month or so before we were an official couple. I even introduced him to my family before we started dating. He says he knew I was the one right away ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I knew after our first date that he was going to be an important person in my life, but I didn’t realize he was “the one” until after the two of us had gotten through some mixed singles. He’s definitely not a player, lol.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Loft

I knew within the first 2 weeks, and if I had any doubts I certainly knew after the first 3 months.

 

It’s true what they say. When you know, you know. It is just a bonus that they feel the same way.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

One day in high school I was sitting in class, and there was a random guy sitting at the teachers desk. He was her nephew, who had been recruited last minute to be in our school play because he had played the same part the year before (the guy who was supposed to play it got himself expelled). I instantly had a crush on him, and just hada feeling that I would end up marrying him. Here we are a few years later, married for 8 months! Or is it 9? One of the two. 

Post # 28
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We met at a friends wedding – we live several hours apart but knew we wanted to meet again after those few hours. We were both a little unsure before that second meeting, wondering if it was just the ‘wedding atmosphere’ or something more but when we did meet we both knew and from our third meeting set up a bank account to save for our eventual marriage ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I was instantly attracted to him, but when was I 100% sure he was the one?  Four years in, we broke up for 48 hours.  It was the worst 2 days of my life, and it made me realize without a shadow of a doubt that I wanted to be with him forever.  I wrote him a long letter explaining my feelings and we got back together.  One year later he proposed and now we’re celebrating our 1 year wedding anniversary next Tuesday.  ๐Ÿ™‚  Everything happens for a reason.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Before we even started dating, we were in middle school I was at my best friends house at the time and she lived in the same neighborhood as my Fiance did and we were jumping on her trampoline and my Fiance came over because her house was the “cool” house and we were jumping together and all sat down and I just got the craziest feeling, thinking to myself I want to marry this kid .. 11 years later we’re engaged ๐Ÿ™‚ it still gives me butterflies when I think about it. We didn’t start dating until out freshman summer into sophmore year. 

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