Post # 1
I am a former waiting bee who broke up with her bf (of 2.5 years) instead of getting engaged. That was a year ago. Now I am dating a new man and things are so much different than with my ex. We’ve only been dating about 4 months but I have fallen, hard. So has he. And its frightening for things to feel so right this quickly. How soon did you know you were dating the man you were going to marry? Cause I really feel that way…
Post # 3
Well, bit of background.. I was dating my ex boyfriend for 3.5 years, then he broke up with me and left for a 8 week “venture” around Africa. Let’s just say in that space of time he was gone, I met my current SO.
In those 6-8 weeks, me and SO completely were besotted with each other. And we told each other we loved one another. It just felt so right and we were so happy.
My ex comes back in town, says he made a HUGE mistake for letting me go and wanted me back. But it was too late, I had fallen for my SO so hard that I just saw instantly how immature and what an idiot my ex was in comparison.
So my SO saved me really, from staying with an ex who is NOTHING compared to my wonderful, kind and caring SO who I have been with for over 3.5 years now. It was the best “moving on” decision I ever made 🙂
So in answer to your question, yes you can fall in love very quickly! But a relationship is always developing, so at least wait a couple of years (personal opinion btw ladies!) to get to know your SO is completely right for you before taking the next step of engagement (and I am sure he is for you 🙂
Post # 4
Honestly, I knew right away. Before we met in person, we talked so many nights on the phone. We had an instant connection that i had never had before. It was scary to me a little bit because I had never met him. But he was wonderful. We were introduced by someone we both knew, he was a friend I had made online and he lived in the same town as my fiance. one day my fiance saw a picture of me and said “wow she’s super cute.” and it just went from there.
I may have known from the start, but he made me wait 2 1/2 years! He knew all along we were the right match, but he wanted to see if things were just right.
Honestly, I feel like knowing you’re ready and actually being ready are two different things. Im so glad we waited as long as we did, it meant so much to me when he finally asked. Love shouldnt have time limits, but if you are nervous about it, I would consider talking about it, knowing you both want the same thing, but waiting. Thats what we did.
Post # 5
Freshman year of high school on my first day my SO walked into one of my classes. I had NO idea who he was (i had transfered from a small private school to a large public school). As he walked in i turned to the one girl i slightly knew and told her one day i’d marry him. We didn’t start dating until after high school, but i’ve always known. we’ve been together 3 years now and plan to be married in 2 years! 🙂
Post # 6
I was recently out of a relationship so I was very wary of jumping in too quick. Once I did give my SO a real chance, I knew I was an idiot to have waited at all! I immediately knew that he was the one for me! The “I love you”s came flying out after a couple of weeks and 4 months later we had our first official marriage talk. Its been about 6 months and I know that the ring is coming before March!
I think that it really is one of those “when you know, you know” situations, but I don’t think that it is anything to rush. Make sure you are out of that crazy honeymoon stage before anything is set in stone. I’m really glad we were practical. The fact that we took time to get to know how we worked together, even when things aren’t perfect, is the solid foundation for our future marriage.
Post # 7
We have known each other for a few years but I knew in like the first month of officially dating. But we are still only 8 months in so we will see where things go from here!
Post # 8
I knew our relationship was ‘different’ really early on. Everything just clicked with us. I would say after 3 or 4 months I knew he was the one.
Post # 9
I knew DH was it before we started officially dating… now granted, we had been friends for a number of years and I had only begun being open to dating b/c I was ready for marriage, as was he.
Post # 10
I could tell early on like around 3 months together. But it didn’t completely hit me until around two years together.
Post # 11
I honestly cannot remember when I knew I wanted to marry him because our relationship so far (16 months and counting) has been a hazy blur of bliss. I do remember thinking on our first date though about how natural it all felt. Even from the start, I didn’t feel like I had to put my best foot forward or try to act a certain way…. it all just felt so natural and easy. And I knew then that if it progressed, it would lead to something I’ve never experienced before.
Ok just figured out when I knew I wanted to marry him… when we were joking around about baby names and it hit me that he was not only my lover but had become my best friend… cheesy I know. But that’s when it hit me.
Post # 12
I guessed this could be it at about 1 months. 2 months I knew I loved him. But I really knew after about a year or so.
I believe you can only truely know once the honeymoon period has worn off.
Post # 13
I have known Fiance since I was 14 and he was 17… we didn’t know each other WELL, but would see one anothe socially from time to time. We didn’t start our relationship until I was 22 and he was 25…
We said “I love you” after 4 days, and that night, he’d looked into my eyes and asked me, “You’d say yes, wouldn’t you?” I’d nodded, and we chose our date within the next couple of weeks…
We offically got engaged June 27, because it took so long for my custom ring to be done!!! (Damn jeweler!)
I knew the second night that I was in love…all it took was that first hug…I was hooked. 🙂
Post # 14
DH says he knew right after our first date. I knew about 3-4 weeks after our first date. They say that single women should write a list describing their ideal man. In one column write the qualities you would like, and in the other column write the qualites that are an absolute must. One evening DH (back then just some dude, not SO, not even a “boyfriend”) and I were sitting on the couch. I looked at him then it hit me like a ton of bricks. OMG, the guy down at the other end of the couch is the guy on my list!!! That’s how and how soon I knew.
Post # 15
@2ndtime: DH is my list too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But I knew most all of that before I accepted to date since we had been friends for so long. I’m a total list advocate!
Post # 16
I had an inkling the day we met, and the next day confirmed it. Really fast. He knew then, as well. It was horrible timing since I was just starting the divorce process with my ex, but c’est la vie! Try not to worry about how soon it is… if you know, you know. Nothing says you have to get married tomorrow, and there is an immense comfort in knowing you feel so strongly about each other. Enjoy it 🙂