Post # 1
I’m just over 5 weeks pregnant, and ideally I wouldn’t tell anyone at work (a primary school) about it until 12 weeks. One colleague who is a good friend knows, but I trust her not to say anything. In my contract it says you should inform the school “at the earliest possible time”. The problem is that I’m on sick leave because I got OHSS after my clomid cycle, which got worse with my BFP. I have 2 weeks off, and I told them that I have an ovarian cyst (not wrong, but didn’t state that it was as a result of the fertility treatment!) but I know that at least one colleague is suspicious and I don’t want gossip reaching the director before I have a chance to talk to him. There are 2 weeks left before the end of term after my sick leave.
DH says it’s none of their business until I want to tell them at 12 weeks, but I feel like I owe the director the truth, even if I don’t tell everyone else yet. Also, I will have to have at least one more morning off work because the U/s tech is only there in the morning, and it would be much easier to tell the truth about my appointment rather than calling in sick again. I’m planning to be a Stay-At-Home Mom, but I like my job and I care what they think of me, I don’t want them to think I’m flaky.
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
I found out at a little over five weeks, and told my boss at seven weeks. It was a HUGE risk because I’d literally just started working there (I didn’t know I was three weeks pregnant when I switched jobs). But I felt I couldn’t hide it because I was VERY ill with morning sickness AND I work in a doctors office so he’d likely be able to see the signs anyways.
I got REALLY lucky and he was totally supportive! I know not everyone has that luxury though :-/
Post # 3
I told at 8 weeks (although my manager already knew) Itold because I was struggling with nausea and tiredness and knew it was better to record sickness as pregnancy related. Also I ad taken 2.5 years to get pregnant so if anything had gone wrong I would have been unable to do anything for a while and would need support.
Post # 4
Thats great that your boss was so supportive, hopefully mine will be the same! Of of my colleagues announced her pregnancy the day before I went on sick leave and we suspect another might be but keeping it quiet. My boss is going to start only hiring guys!! :-p
I haven’t had any pregnancy symptoms yet, just the pain of the OHSS, but that’s another thing to think about, thanks!! We’ve been trying a long time too, which is why I’m scared to tell everybody early – I couldn’t stand having to “untell” them later!
Post # 5
15 weeks. My boss knew something was up when I didn’t apply to advance my career so she knew earlier around 12 weeks. I would have kept it a secret longer but there was a celebratory weekend coming up and I didn’t feel like I could hide it anymore. I was also able to hide that I was having severe morning sickness. I probably could have gotten away with it until I was about 25 weeks or so as I didn’t see anyone all summer (I’m a teacher).
Post # 6
I’m currently 11 weeks and plan on telling my manager before Christmas when I will be about 15 weeks. Only one of my co-workers knows and that is because we are close friends and I wanted her to know so that I would have support should anything happen.
Post # 7
13 weeks because we were all on a work conference trip and I didn’t feel like hiding my eating/drinking habits!
Post # 8
I didn’t want to have to tell all my coworkers if I had a miscarriage so I waited until 13 weeks with my first pregnancy. I’m 14 weeks with my second and I’ve only told a few people at work, I’ll tell the rest this week, I think. If I were you I would wait until you are comfortable telling to tell, don’t feel obligated to say right away when it’s still so early- unless you want to, that is.
ETA: huge congrats!!!
Post # 9
Congrats on your pregnancy!!
I didn’t tell anyone because I wasn’t showing until 15 weeks when I had a miscarriage and had to tell my boss so I could take some time off. I’ve told one other coworkers since but I know a bunch of others are wondering what’s up. On one hand I’m glad I don’t have a bunch of people to untell, but on the other hand it’s hard having to hide all of the time off and appointments I’ve had since. One actually asked me today if “I had some news to tell them”…
I would personally wait until I saw a heart beat even though I know now it doesn’t guarantee anything, and tell those whose support you’d be comfortable receiving should anything go wrong (which hopefully it won’t!!)
Post # 10
Close coworkers around 12 weeks. didn’t tell my boss until 26 weeks.
Post # 11
I would interpret “earliest possible time” to be still be at the end of the first trimester when the miscarriage rate drops substantially and you can be more sure of your maternity leave needs which is all your employer needs to know about. The one woman at work who knows I did ivf (and knows that I already know the outcome) even told me not to tell her until I’m safely passed the first tri if it did work (which it did and I’m currently 6 weeks). My current plan is to announce at 14 weeks but my boobs are noticeably a LOT bigger and I’m so bloated I already look pregnant so I may cave at 10 or 12 weeks depending on how I’m feeling. I am definitely waiting until after my annual review.
Post # 12
in my old contract it actually specified that you had to tell them within the first three months but they’ve changed it now. I get 14 weeks maternity leave, but school holidays are end of June to end of August and baby is due mid July so I won’t be able to take it anyway.
this is what I’m concerned about – I know I’ll need at least one more day off before the Christmas holidays, and that’s without factoring in morning sickness or any other problems I might have. That’s why I feel like I should tell the director, even if I don’t tell my colleagues.
Post # 13
I told my boss at 20 weeks. Now 22 weeks, still haven’t told co-workers (I’m only just starting to show so nobody’s guessed yet).
Post # 14
why can’t you take your mat leave because of the school holidays? Surely it saves and just add on to the end what ever you haven’t taken?
Realised this is in the States now, I think you tell so late. I could not have hid it much longer as I bloated up really early. Here we also have loads of legal protections which kick in once you tell your employer so it is worth telling earlier.
Post # 15
I kept getting up from my desk multiple times per day due to morning (all day) sickness and I didn’t want him to think I was a flake so I told him way earlier than planned, like 7 weeks. He didn’t tell anybody and I told everyone else at 10 weeks, after the U/S.