(Closed) how soon do you announce you are pregnant?

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My sister told us right away (parents and myself) but waited about 2 months before telling the general public!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think waiting until the second trimester is the way to go.
I had two relatives call everyone (and I do mean everyone) up the minute they found out they were pregnant, and then have to call everyone back a few weeks later when they miscarried. It wasn’t a pleasant experience for them…

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

It’s pretty common for people to wait until the end of their first trimester (~12 weeks) when the chances of a miscarriage decrease tremendously. It really depends on your preferences, if you are experiencing any problems, how fast you are starting to show, when you need to tell your job, etc. There is no real good answer to this.

We told some people at 7 weeks because we had a scare so it was nearly impossible to hide it from my boss then. All others found out later.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I waited till I was 10 weeks when I was having my daughter.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would wait until the potential for typical miscarriage has passed (3 months, I think?). Otherwise, if god forbid that happens to you, you would then have to to go back and tell everyone that, and that would not be fun.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I was watching a special on Discovery Health yesterday (we are a few years away from TTC, but I like learning!) and the OB/GYN said after a heartbeat is detected, your risk of miscarriage goes down to 5% – 7%, and you can usually announce it then.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’ve had 2 friends this year announce and then miscarry not long after.

Couple one miscarried – but got pregnant again. They just told us, though it’s not public knowledge. They waited about 3 months.

Couple 2 had known difficulties. They announced ASAP because they were so excited. I was always secretly worried because it was literally like, WE JUST FOUND OUT! Sure enough, about 3 weeks later she miscarried. Then, we had to deal with the awkwardness when a kid of another friend blurts out, “Oh ya, sorry you lost your baby.”

Other friends of mine waited about 2 months. They got pregnant of their honeymoon (in St. Lucia) and it was a bit of a shocker… they wanted to get used to the idea first, lol.

Ironically, couple one went to St. Lucia to get their marriage back on track because of the stress of the miscarriage. That’s where they conceived too. 

We have decided NOT to go to St. Lucia for our honeymoon! lol

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

It really depends. I’ve had a few miscarriages so with this pregnancy I waited until 13 weeks until I started telling people, and even then I wasn’t shouting it out to the world. I had told my mom, aunt and best friend as soon as I found out, but only because I was going to need their love and support if I miscarried again.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

my boss announced when she was 10 weeks…this is her second child.  I already thought she might be pregnant 2 weeks earlier because she was sick a lot and starting to show.  I think it depends on the situation but, it is probably best to wait 10-12 weeks before announcing to everyone. 

one of my not so close facebook friends announced literally the second they found out (um, posting the positive pee stick in her photos!!) and ended up miscarrying a month later.  Only found that out via another FB update…though I’m sure it was hard for her to write that.  She probably should have never announced. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would wait until the first trimester is over.  I would only tell my parents and sisters when I found out.

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I think it depends on you and your needs.  Some people tell right away knowing that they could use the support if the unthinkable happened.  Others choose to wait until they see the heartbeat (risk of miscarriage goes way down) or until after any prenatal testing they may be getting.

We just wanted to feel comfortable in our own skins with it first, so we didn’t really tell most people until 18-20 weeks, and now knowing that I wasn’t going to show until 25-26 weeks, I might have waited even longer!

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I agree with pps: I think this probably varies, couple by couple.  We told our parents, our best friends, and my boss at 6-7 weeks.  We told everyone else after the first trimester.  I’ve heard of other people waiting until the ssecond trimester, but some people choose to tell earlier because they’re excited, they want extra support in case they have a miscarriage, etc…

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Our immediate families know. Most of my friends have guessed, but we haven’t formally announced it. I’m 7 weeks btw. We have an ultrasound in two days and if we see the heartbeat, then we’ll slowly start telling people. I don’t plan on posting it on facebook or anything, I’m just going to tell a few people and let the word spread. I’m not going to bother telling my boss, bc as of Friday, I’m leaving my job to stay home with my kids anyway.

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