(Closed) How soon do you announce/invite the bridal party?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@realtreegal:  Since you are a year out, I think now is a good time! I say go for it! 🙂

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I asked my party about a month after we got engaged. I already had them all picked out… I had a looooooong time to think about it before getting engaged!

I ordered cards from etsy seller marrygrams that said “I couldn’t say I do without you” on the outside and “Will you be my bridesmaid?” (one maid of honor) on the inside. They were a beautiful shimmery cardstock and she has a nice choice of envelope colors. Everyone loved them.

Post # 5
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I asked my bridesmaids within a month of getting engaged. I sent them little boxes with ring pops in order to pop the question. My good friend got engaged a year and a half before her wedding and was on the phone asking us as soon as he put the ring on her finger. I think that it’s totally acceptable to go ahead and ask your bridesmaids if you are positive on who you want to be involved.

My friend lives on the other side of the state and most of her bridesmaids live out of town. So, she scheduled a dress shopping day a couple months in advance so we could arrange to be there. I ended up doing the same thing and it was worth the wait to have my close friends with me when I said yes to the dress. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@realtreegal:  i would say about 10 months to a year is perfect. i chose them at 16 months and it was  a little too early, IMO.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You can go ahead and ask but be sure about it because you can’t take it back. It would suck to ask a girl and then realize you want someone else instead.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@realtreegal:  9-12 months before your wedding.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@realtreegal:  My wedding is the day after yours and I asked right around the 1 year mark (I’ve been engaged since August). However, I had already taken one of them wedding dress shopping with me (the only one that lives where I do — actually, Arizona like you. I’m in Tucson). Most of them (3 out of 4) I had dropped hints to ahead of time and most of them (a different 3 out of 4) I had been in their weddings and am still close to them, so they probably expected it or at least thought it was likely. I asked the local one by bringing her cupcakes that said, one word on each cupcake, “HerName, will you be my bridesmaid?” and the other three by mailing them frosted sugar cookies that said the same thing as the cupcakes on two of the sets, and the other said “HerName, will you be my matron of honor” (I forgot the question mark, and she rearranged them to make it an order (you will be) instead of a question 🙂 ). Oh, and in my sister’s box I included cookies asking my niece to be my flower girl so that my brother-in-law would get some cookies too (my niece was too young to eat cookies).

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Ask soon! If it is a year away this is the perfect time.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I already had mine picked out, and my friends were asking as soon as we told them we were engaged.  I wanted to do something cute to ask them and ordered some things online.  While I was waiting to get them in, Fiance let it slip in front of two friends because their bf & husband are his groomsmen, so he kind of ruined the surprise for me.  I ended up just telling them that I wanted them to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man instead of asking them in the cutesy way I had planned.  ugh…men! 

I say go ahead, but ask people you really want there.  Asking someone just because you want to have bridesmaids will be a recipe for drama if you aren’t really that close to them! 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I announced mine a month after we got engaged! I wanted my girls to be involved in all of the planning and help me out as much as I can. I knew my sister was one and all of my best friends, so I didn’t need time to think it out! my FH didn’t let his groomsmen know until about 5 or 6 months out, only because he couldn’t narrow his list down! haha

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

You can ask as soon as you’re ready. But, I would caution you to do some serious thinking before you commit to any particular group of girls. Remember, being a bridesmaid is fun, but is a lot of work. You want a group of girls that can function together cohesively and plan together. Also, remember these are the people that will be around (hopefully) for many, many years and milestones to come. Don’t include the frenemy just because you were in her wedding.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We got engaged in November and I asked them in late January/early February.  We are getting married in September.  I think anything under a year is fine.  I just wanted to make sure that Fiance had his all figured out because he was having trouble deciding.  I would have hated to ask too many girls and then have Fiance say he didn’t ask someone. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@realtreegal:  I haved already asked my Matron of Honor & Maid of Honor (yep two of them), and I will ask the other three girls after we find our venue & set our date, just to make sure that they can be up for it knowing the details.

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