Post # 1
Hi Bees! I am stressing over dress shopping and I haven’t even started! I have been engaged since mid December and have of course done TONS of pinteresting to help me figure out what kind of dress I want (and don’t want!) but our wedding isn’t for 19 months and I am concerned about finding a dress too early! I am getting tons of pressure from everyone to start looking, except my mom who thinks ill regret it.
For those of you who had long engagements; when did you start shopping for your dress? How long did it take for you to find one?
I really really want to start but I know that I will not stop thinking about it until I find the perfect one! Help!
Post # 3
There’s nothing wrong with trying on dresses early and figuring out what styles flatter you most (pinterest won’t help with that, unfortunately)
Bear in mind, that looking early and buying early are two different things. 🙂 If you give yourself the oportunity to try on lots of dresses and find one you want, you’ll also have the oportunity to price a specific dress at different stores and come out with a deal! 🙂
Post # 4
I bought my dress around Thanksgiving of 2012 for my September wedding. I was about 9 months out. Any earlier and I would probably have some regret or kept looking forever. Everyone is different so what worked for some may not work for you.
Post # 5
@Ritzbitz176: I got mine in October 2012. No dress regret yet!
I think, realistically, you can wait until August or September or this year.
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Please see related posts on dress regret. Styles change every season. Don’t shop more than one year before and once you buy your dress, stop shopping.
Post # 7
@Ritzbitz176: I also got engaged in December and we set the date to May 2014… I was in the same boat as you – I didnt want to shop too early. So I told myself I would do my research online and figure out what i want/dont want, and then go to one bridal store a month and make my decision at the 10 month mark…well by the third bridal store I found my dress and was in the moment and purchased it!!!! I am 14 months away which isnt crazy but I wish I would of waited another 2-3 months before saying ‘yes’. However I am in love with my dress and have no dress regret…
So it all depends on what you want…if you want to wait, then wait and dont let anyone pressure you. If you want to shop around and give yourself a few months to try on dresses, then def do it – its a lot of fun:) But try to be stronging than me and sleep on the decision before purchasing your dress lol
Post # 8
By the time Fiance and I get married, we will have been engaged for 4 years. I tried on dresses in September just to see how I looked in different silhouttes. I don’t plan on purchasing anything until this summer. I think that buying a dress a full 12 months out is still risky.
Post # 9
I bought my dress in Sept. 2012 for my Sept. 2013 wedding. I wasn’t planning on buying that day, I thought I was just going to look and ended up finding my dress. I think its fine to start looking now, but don’t suggest buying so early, it leaves too much time for regret!
Post # 10
Thank you ladies! This was my first post and I must say, I love the responses! I have a feeling I will be addicted very soon… 🙂
Post # 11
@Ritzbitz176: I’d start shopping in a few months. I think they say you shouldn’t get a dress any closer than 8 months to the wedding.
If you start looking in a few months, you’ll have just over a year to find the right one.
I don’t think there’s any harm in looking now, unless you’re one of those girls who is prone to changing her mind and developing what I see all too often on wedding bee.. “dress regret” lol.
Post # 12
When we get married in October we will have been engaged for 2.5 years. We got engaged in April 2011 and I shopped/bought my dress in August 2011. Everyone warned me that I would get dress regret, change my mind about wedding style, etc. I didn’t, but I do see how that could totally happen. I have since then seen so many dresses that I would have liked to try on, but honestly I still absolutely adore my dress and I think I still would have ended up with it.
Before shopping I had my #1 dress pick. I humored my mother and tried on a bunch of different ones at different shops and boutiques. I waited until the very end to go and try on my #1 choice and it ended up being ‘the one’ just like I expected. I think I was meant to wear this dress so it wouldn’t have mattered. I was also worried that my dress might be discontinued if I waited too long. I got it from JCrew so its not something I could have found at other bridal shops. This did pressure me into buying it sooner – but of course, JCrew does still have the dress 2 years later lol. Oh well.
That being said, there are a ton of posts on here about dress regret – not all due to buying too early, but quite a few are. If I were you I would look but not purchase yet (unless, like me, you find something at a nontraditional shop and absolutely love it & worry it won’t be available later). Also since you have a good amount of time you might end up changing your wedding vision, theme, etc and that could have an affect on which dress you would choose. I don’t think it needs to be matchy matchy, but an uber modern gown might not go too well in a rustic wedding.
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I had about the same timeline as you- engaged Dec ’11 and wedding is August ’13. When did I seriously start looking at dresses online? Probably around September of ’11 lol. I only started looking in stores about 11 months out, though, and I ended up trying on 80+ dresses. I wish I had started even earlier.
Post # 14
@Ritzbitz176: I wouldn’t let anyone pressure you into start looking if you’re really not ready. Especially with 19 months to go! I think starting to get serious about dress shopping about a year out is the safest bet.
The advantage with buying now is if you find a dress that you absolutely love (and I mean, after trying it on, not just by sight), it may be discontinued or unavailable if you wait too long. BUT on the flipside, if you buy now and the new collections come out and you end up falling for another style… DRESS REGRET 🙁 Totally not saying that you would get it, but it’s always a possibility.
Also keep in mind what type of theme you want for your wedding, where you’re getting married, etc… it would be a shame for you to buy a really heavy, gorgeous ballgown only to decide to get married on a beach.. not that there’s nothing wrong with wearing a ballgown for a beach wedding, but it would get real hot real fast!
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center
Also on another flipside, the new 2013 stuff will drop in price around November
Post # 16
@Meant2bMrsC: thanks for the tips. I think I’ll try to go ithinking owing I’m just playing dress up for now. Haha! I really am looking forward to trying them on I just don’t want to fall in love yet!