Post # 1
I know who my maids will be, my 2 sisters and 2 friends. One of them I’ve been friends with since we were 12 (18 years) and the other I met 10 years ago ay 20 and we’ve been friends ever since and have gotten closer in the last year or so and she’s been wonderful support during my lengthy wait for the ring etc etc. It’s killing me not asking them yet, apart from anything I’m sure they both know they’re going to be asked, I just dont’ want to ask ‘too soon’. When is too soon!?
(my sisters already know…that’s a given)
Post # 3
I think it depends on the person. Some will say it is too soon and others will say you can ask now.
Post # 4
Unless you’re 100% sure and would not “fire” any of them, then I think it’s ok to ask them a year out. However, a lot of times people have problems so I’d wait as long as you can!
Post # 5
I think there’s no such thing as too soon, it sounds like you’re really sure about your girls, so go ahead and ask, then you can share all the excitement with them! I would just caution you though, that things happen sometimes that might lead to them not being able to be a bridesmaid. For example, one of my girls got pregnant, and her due date is a month before my wedding. I hope nothing like that happens to you, but if so, don’t be upset if they can’t be bridesmaids.
It’s funny because I’m having the opposite problem. I have yet to ask my Future Sister-In-Law to be a bridesmaid, because I don’t know her well and I’m really shy, so I just don’t know HOW to ask her.
Post # 6
@RunnerBride13: I agree it’s fine to ask them now if they’re reliable. I’ve read a lot of bridesmaid drama but most of it comes back to poor choice of bridesmaid. If you know they are true friends, who will stand by you no matter what, then it’s fine to ask them 12 months out.
I had my two bridesmaids (best friend and sister) picked out about 10 years before I met my husband! I asked them immediately, 10 months before my wedding.
Post # 7
see i don’t expect a lot of my bridesmaids except that they show up the day of and keep me from havng a meltdown. I would like a shower etc but that will be difficult as we all live in difference provinces. I really just want these girls with me, they’ve been there for me through so much of my life, they’re practically sisters to me now.
Post # 8
We’re having a 3.5 year engagement; as soon as I told them we were engaged, they assumed they were going to be bridesmaids, and were right lol.
I think that if a) you are totally, 100% sure, as I was and b) you expect anything of them (such as buying their outfits, helping out with wedding-related activities, etc) then the sooner you ask the better from their point of view as it gives them time to save/plan.
Post # 9
I asking my maids 1 year out.. so this October =]
Post # 10
I asked a year out, and now regret it. I wish I would have asked closed to wedding, because now some of my wedding party is just unsupportive and not helping at all, and if I knew that then I wouldn’t have asked