(Closed) How soon should I start collecting addresses?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
611 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014


Still haven’t sent out all my STD’s yet and I barely collected the last address today.

Most of them were physically handed out to coworkers through Fiance and my mom to the guests she wanted to invite she didn’t wait for me to get addresses or wanted to get their addresses for me to mail em out.

My wedding is in June 2014.

Post # 4
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@thefuturemrsD:  My wedding is slightly less than a year away, and I’ve done a very little amount of collecting of addresses. I’ll do it all in the month prior to mailing Save the Dates (which I think we will send out in December). 

Post # 5
207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

For us it didn’t take long. We started collecting addresses around 4-3 weeks before sending out the invites (we didn’t do save the dates) and got them all within a few days. 

Post # 6
1699 posts
Bumble bee

A lady should start collecting addresses when she begins to have a social life. That would be somewhere around 15 or 16, and admittedly the addresses at that point will primarily be girlfriends, classmates and teachers but it is a start. Whenever she begins to have a social life independent of her parents’ social life she should expand her address collection to include all of the relatives who are close enough to consider sending Christmas and Birthday greetings, or who might offer you dinner or housespace when hitchhiking across the continent or conceiveably bail you out of jail when something goes completely sideways and they end up being your last hope.

If you haven’t started such a list by now, then now would be a good time to start. I like a bound journal with one page per family, listing the formal names with titles, given names, birthdates and anniversaries; email addresses, phone numbers and street addresses; and room to write in the occasions to which they have hosted me, and the occasions to which I have hosted them, and what cards or gifts we have exchanged both ways. But your cloud contact list will probably work just as well. Try to keep it up-to-date as you meet new people.

Of course, there will be people in your visiting book (or contact list) that you do not invite to your wedding. But if you have been diligent about maintaining your social contacts in the years leading up to your wedding, you will be able to pick and choose your guestlist without ever having to scramble or tip your hand by asking for addresses.

Post # 7
1671 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@thefuturemrsD:  I don’t think thereis necessarily such a thing as too early. The only thing is if the person moves you need to remember. However, I would just collect the addresses of the people you know for sure you are inviting and maybe save the rest for later in case it changes and you don’t have to explain to someone that you are no longer inviting them. That would be awkward 🙂

ETA: there is nothing wrong with getting addresses for people thatyou see often enough either, for general purposes

Post # 8
1523 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@thefuturemrsD:  I sent out STD’s last November, so I would say I started collecting them about 13 months before my wedding.

Post # 9
624 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014



I got engaged in December and started collecting addresses around March just so that I wouldnt be scrambling at the last minute.  I will say though that the drawback of collecting too early is that sometimes people will move before you send out invites (2 people I know moved and I found out through FB) and they may forget to tell you.  Honestly I would wait until about 6 months before your wedding.




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