Post # 1
We are planning a bachelorette party mid-August, which required us to buy tickets ahead of time (for a dinner/evening 4 hour boatcruise). We let everybody know ahead of time what the cost of this would be per person (including the bride’s share) and then Maid/Matron of Honor bought the tickets mid-July, one month ahead of time.
The cost each was $85 for the whole boatcruise and everybody seemed on board before we agreed to it and before Maid/Matron of Honor bought the tickets (she’s out the money and wouldn’t get reimbursed if a girl doesn’t come).
Now, she asked for everybody to pay her back right away, which everybody did, except one girl who still hasn’t and is being rude about it when Maid/Matron of Honor asked for her money.
We are also renting a hotel room after that will be shared, but since it won’t be charged until the day of, we’ll ask for that after the bachelorette.
I’m asking because I’m curious to see what people normally do. I’m usually very quick at paying people back, but if people owe me money I don’t usually bug them unless its weeks after (I’m not a very good collector).
Post # 3
I’d pay back as soon as I could. However, a good rule of thumb is to never lend money you can’t afford to lose. I’m sure there’s a reason — good or bad — that the girl is being difficult about paying your maid-of-honor back.
Post # 4
Id pay back right away, but know people who would think nothing of bringing cash the day of the party and thinking “wtf is her deal, I’m good for it” when asked for the money right away. Some people are weird about money, what can I say!
Post # 5
More people act like this girl than you would think. I’ve been in a lot of similar situations, and there is always at LEAST one person who is a pain about paying up – even if they were 100% totally on board about the price from the beginning. The only way to really avoid this, I think, is to make everyone pay by a certain date before anything is booked. Whoever does not pay is not included in the booking. I haven’t done that myself yet, but I’ve been given the advice to do so next time I’m an organizer, haha.
As for me, I ALWAYS pay back immediately because I know how it feels to wait on people for cash all the time!
Post # 6
We typically collect money, put it in a big pot WELL BEFORE the event. Use the money in the pot to finance the shindig. If anyone spends money above and beyond, they present receipts and are reimbursed by the group.