Post # 1
I just found out over facebook that my first ever ‘boyfriend’ (we were 11 and kindof pushed together by friends who thought it’d be cool for everyone to have a boy/girlfriend) has just got married. Seeing as how I’ve not spoken to him since we were 13 he’s still that age in my head – so weird! Like there’s no way he could possibly have a wife – he’s still a little kid!
Has anyone else found out something odd about exes/old friends recently?
Post # 3
My 2 first bfs are married….one has a kid and the other is expecting after a horrible miscarriage (she was 36 weeks.) But I’ve known this about them both.
DH on the other hand “found” one of his exes on FB and she’s married. His latest ex (psycho crazy) told him the girl had gotten a divorce from the guy but nope, she’s still married to him 5 years later….we have no idea WHY the ex would have told him that…..maybe to gauge his reaction???
Post # 4
@texasbee: How horrible for your ex and his wife – this pregnancy must be so bittersweet for them And it sounds like your DH is well shot of his ex – what a strange thing to have done!
Post # 5
My siblings are like that in my head. They all stopped aging (to me) at different random times in their childhoods so anytime I think about one of them I picture them at their childhood age. And one of them is married! 🙂
Post # 6
I had a guy I dated in University, but I broke up with because I realized it wasn’t going anywhere. Still sucked, cause he was a great guy, but I knew it wasn’t right.
Anyways, one of the MASSIVE arguements we always had was that he didn’t want kids because his father was a bad, horrible person (see abandoned him and his brother and mom by moving them into a trailor, taking all the money and leaving to start a new family, never paid child support, etc, etc). He was convinced that he would be a bad dad and wanted nothing to do with it, no matter how I tried to convince him that because he loved kids, he likely would be a good father. After about a year, my biology told me to run.
We still chatted randomly for about 6 months after we broke up, as he would call me for advice and I would call him, and he told me about a girl he was dating that he didn’t really like (he found himself to be, and I quote “intellectually above her on many levels”), but he had around “for a good time”.
ANYWAYS, about a year after we stopped talking (I moved back to my hometown about 16 hrs away) his cousin re-added me on facebook and I found out that this guy had gotten this chick pregnant and they were expecting a baby. No idea what came of it (besides a baby), but it was like this GIANT shock for me for awhile that he could even HAVE a baby. I guess thinking, for so long, that he was clearly CFBC the idea he could get someone pregnant floored me for quite some time.
Post # 7
@takemyhand: Similar here — I just found out by overhearing someone mention that a guy I used to date knocked some girl up and so now he’s a father (though certainly not a Dad in any sense of the word). I think for me the weird part was that someone who was 1) incredibly responsible, to the point that it drove me nuts, and 2) afraid of commitment could manage to do the most irresponsible and lifelong-commitment-worthy thing imaginable.
I kind of felt bad for him, though, because … what an idiot. I can’t imagine life is very great after you accidentally knock up some girl you’re not even dating. I think the “fall in love and live happily ever after as the world’s greatest parents” thing only happens in the movies.
Post # 8
@claireos: Haha, I’m the same way. My 14 year old sister is still about 6 or 7 in my head.
Post # 9
@iarebridezilla: I totally hear you! Especially the responsible bit. I think that this guy was more paranoid about birth control than I was. I was on the pill, he would call me, DAILY to remind me to take it (cause I clearly didn’t know how after 6 or so years of doing it on my own). He insisted on using condoms and a pull out method.
How he knocked up a girl is beyond me.
As well, he tried to convince me to take Plan B, and was convinced I’d be pregnant when the condom broke, one time, before anything finished. Guy was a bit intense 😛