Post # 47
Wow doesnt seem like she even cares about offending people. I would definitely not waste my time attending something like this. She sounds really rude.
Post # 48
I wouldn’t even worry about trying to write a nice decline. If she is so blunt, give some bluntness back to her and see how she likes it. Lol
Post # 49
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I’m so sorry your friend is making this such a nightmare, but I have to say, I have been laughing my ass off at this thread.
What the hell is B thinking? Destination Potluck. LOL!! Gourmet Feast in the hotel room! ROFL! “Materialistic” WOW! Who would go to this debacle?
But seriously, “he obviously wouldn’t ruin the wedding,” was IT. I would decline for sure and I’d make sure B knew that it was bad form to treat your fiance this way (especially as she’s SOOOO EXCITED to go to his wedding, UGH!).
Post # 50
A destination pot luck? Well that’s one I’ve never heard of.
Post # 51
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
If it comes down to having to give the bride a reason, cost is a good one. Flights, hotels, and car rental can all add up. That could easily ran you over $600, plus a gift.
Post # 52
the wierdest part is that her friends from high school etc (that i don’t know) seem to be fine with this (or are pretending until they come up with an excuse) and some of them are leaving husbands at home for this! it’s nuts.
i will definitely update if there are fireworks – i’m hoping there won’t be, but she must know i’m seriously unimpressed – i haven’t responded to any of her jerky messages. i’m just waiting for the evite so i can decline.
i’ve drafted the decline, and have definitely used WE!
definitely self centered. ‘it’s our day’ is their mantra – which is great, but when you’re hosting people, you have to make them comfortable and happy (within reason). if she doesn’t want to do that, she should have kept it family only in the first place!
yep, that was ‘it’ for me too. that and her comments about how dumb people are who have weddings – that the money could be used for a house etc. she’d been engaged for about a minute and got on that high horse pretty quick. plus, we have a healthy house fund and our parents are paying for the wedding – so she can pipe down.
you and me both!
Post # 53
oh no, no plane ride to a potluck wedding where the Fiance isn’t invited. Unless you actually WANT to see them get married.
This is just am RSVP no.
Post # 54
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
Her logic is hilarious. Yes, spending money on a wedding is “stupid.” BUt she exects her guests to shell out for plane fare, hotel and car, not to mention whatever magical kitchen you’re supposed to be renting in which to prepare your Potluck dish….
She needs a “tight slap,” as they say in Bollywood……. ugh.
Post # 55
All I have to say is…Ew. I would be crossing my fingers that this situation will relieve you of the friendship once and for all haha. +1 to everyone saying that its cute how they claim to be saving money, however really they just want their guests to foot the bill by traveling to them and bringing all the food. Yikes. Good for you for not putting up with the BS.