(Closed) How the hell do i handle THIS?!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 47
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Newbee

Wow doesnt seem like she even cares about offending people.  I would definitely not waste my time attending something like this.  She sounds really rude.

Post # 48
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39 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I wouldn’t even worry about trying to write a nice decline. If she is so blunt, give some bluntness back to her and see how she likes it. Lol

Post # 49
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I’m so sorry your friend is making this such a nightmare, but I have to say, I have been laughing my ass off at this thread.

What the hell is B thinking? Destination Potluck. LOL!!  Gourmet Feast in the hotel room! ROFL! “Materialistic” WOW! Who would go to this debacle?

But seriously, “he obviously wouldn’t ruin the wedding,” was IT. I would decline for sure and I’d make sure B knew that it was bad form to treat your fiance this way (especially as she’s SOOOO EXCITED to go to his wedding, UGH!).

Post # 50
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2861 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

A destination pot luck? Well that’s one I’ve never heard of. 

Post # 51
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

If it comes down to having to give the bride a reason, cost is a good one. Flights, hotels, and car rental can all add up. That could easily ran you over $600, plus a gift.

Post # 53
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

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@peonyinlove:  oh no, no plane ride to a potluck wedding where the Fiance isn’t invited. Unless you actually WANT to see them get married.

This is just am RSVP no.

Post # 54
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

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@peonyinlove:  Her logic is hilarious. Yes, spending money on a wedding is “stupid.” BUt she exects her guests to shell out for plane fare, hotel and car, not to mention whatever magical kitchen you’re supposed to be renting in which to prepare your Potluck dish….

She needs a “tight slap,” as they say in Bollywood……. ugh.

Post # 55
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859 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

All I have to say is…Ew. I would be crossing my fingers that this situation will relieve you of the friendship once and for all haha. +1 to everyone saying that its cute how they claim to be saving money, however really they just want their guests to foot the bill by traveling to them and bringing all the food. Yikes. Good for you for not putting up with the BS. 

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