Post # 1
I’m having some difficulty deciding what size to give to my bf for an engagement ring.
Background: I have a 2mm band that i wear on my ring finger, size 3.25. When I was sized by the jeweler, 3.5 seemed like it would spin (if it had a diamond/some weight on it) and 3.0 I could only get over the knuckle 1 out of 4 tries. Sooo we went with a 3.25.
3.25 band fits well, I barely ever notice it. But when I take it off, it definitely leaves an indentation around my finger. Sometimes it’s slight, sometimes it’s deep (i.e. chinese take out nights). I have to use a bit of effort to get it over the fatter part of my finger and my knuckle, but it never gets stuck (though I have yet to own it through a Memphis summer).
The problem: if I wore but one ring around that finger for the rest of my life, I’d likely order it in a 3.25, but because I plan on wearing a wedding band behind it (the side closer to me), I wonder if I should order the engagement ring in 3.5 since it will be shoved slightly higher up towards the fattier part of my finger.
The ring I plan on has hand engraving on the side, so I wanted to avoid resizing it, if I could, in order to preserve the designs on the side as much as possible. and it is 1 or 2 mm wider…would this affect the fit as well? And everyone always says that resizing can alter integrity of the ring and what not.
So with your experiences, should I err on the large or small side? What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
I worried about sizing too! I would go with 3.25. Some jewelers can even do 1/8 sizes I think, but most don’t.
The wedding band often makes the ring fit tighter, but I would order that in the larger size rather than the e ring because 1) when you are engaged you will only wear the one and I would worry about loosing it 2) The wedding band will be held in place with the e ring since you wear the wedding band closer to your heart 3) you will already have the ering when you start shopping for the wedding band and can make sure whatever you get will be comfortable.
Post # 4
Any time you add width, you should allow for a larger size. For example, a 4mm band would require you wear it in a larger size to fit the same degree of comfort as a 1mm would fit on the same finger. And 2+2 (band + e-ring) will still equal 4 in this scenario.
Opt for slightly larger, and if you need to, you can always add on a sizing bar or sizing balls. They are a great non-permanent solution and much easier than actually resizing your ring.
Post # 5
it’s a very pretty ring! I love it! good luck with sizing. I’ve been wondering about mine too.
Post # 6
so funny you just posted this. i literally just took my ring off bc it has been bothering me! i sized mine too small i think bc it leaves a mark and i sometimes have to use lotion to get it off my fingers when it’s swollen. i am going to resize it before my wedding bc i don’t want those close ups of our rings on our fingers to be capturing my starving for blood supply finger! hahah if i were you, i’d go larger but that is just from my experience. GL!
Post # 7
Thanks for all the replies! So quick, too! I was thinking that I should maybe size up, but justelope was kinda right too, I don’t want it to come off inadvertently while I’m drying my hands in the bathroom or something.
@Miss Wallaroo: I have a pretty high salt diet (not on purpose, more for lack of caring about salt intake) so my fingers swell and shrink all day long. I haven’t had circulation problems YET, but it’s WINTER, RIGHT?! Does it get much worse in the summer? I figured that Southern summer swelling = 2000mg salt/day swelling. Do you find that your worst winter day could rival your summer days? Or is it just entirely different (and painful) ballpark altogether?
Post # 8
Beautiful ring! I would definitely go with the 3.5. When they measured my finger, they told me to definitely go with a 5 or a 5.25, but it just didn’t feel right to me, and I actually went with a 5.75. I’m so glad in the summer that i have that extra space because let’s face it, ring muffin top is almost as unattractive as waist muffin top and really uncomfortable to boot! It does get a bit loose in the winter, but the way I see it as long as you shake your hand pretty vigorously and your knuckle keeps it on it’s not going anywhere. And it’ll only be alone for a little bit before it gets a wedding band friend.
Another thing to consider, and I’m not sure this is possible with your ring’s design, but if you’re worried about spinning you could have the ring made with a european shank? I have just a plain solitaire and it NEVER spins because of the shank, despite the fact that it’s technically 2 sizes too big.
Post # 9
Always go up in size! I normally wear a 3.75 but had to go up to a 4.5 for both rings when they added my wedding band because of the extra width. It should be snug over the knuckle but not uncomfortable.
Post # 10
I ordered a 5.25 because the person at the jewelrey store cautioned up that since it was winter, my fingers were probably very small and I needed extra room for when my fingers swell in the summer. Well, my finger don’t swell in the summer and I wish I had gone down a partial size. My ering spins all the time.
Post # 11
That’s a tough one!! i have really small fingers which tend to fluctuate in size throughout the day as well (not because of my salt intake or heat, but because of my activity level) and let me tell you, those times when my fingers are small is when I am SO glad that i have a smaller size ring! Sometimes when I flick my hands around I can feel the whole ring moving on my fingers and I FREAK OUT that it might fly off right then and there! You might also consider when you’re going to wear your engagement ring (like, will you take it off and just wear your band if you’re going to be out hiking around or something on a hot summer day?), and maybe that will help you decide if you’ll really need that bigger size. Personally, I say go with the smaller size, it’ll stay on, and not spin around and get damaged in the long run!
p/s: high salt diet? that’s also not good for your health, you know 😉
Post # 12
dont’ forget about sizing beads! i have a big knuckle and small fingers and I plan on looking into this option as well. hope it helps!
edit: added link
Post # 13
My wedding band and e-ring are both size 5, and there are days when I can barely get them off my finger. Always size up.
Post # 14
@sleepingbeauty88: BEADS, not balls! That’s it! What is wrong with me? Haha. I thought something sounded “off” about my post… lol.
Post # 15
Size up! There are more options when you size up. Like littlemissmango said, when your ring is too big you have more options.
When I was sized at the jeweler, they sized me @ a 3, but I didn’t want “muffin top” so I ordered a 3.75.. Yeah, it was way too big.. After sizing beads/bars didn’t do the trick we landed on the “horseshoe” or “butterfly” spring. My ring fits perfectly, and if I ever need more room I can just have it taken out! I posted a picture below.. you can see it on the bottom of my ring.
Post # 16
@littlemissmango: LoL! When I had the sizing beads in, my Fiance called them “nipples”.. I actually liked the bars better than the beads.. They were more comfortable.