Post # 1
I have a few family members that I am aware of, who have severe (ie life threatening) food allergies to nuts, seafood and gluten. Beyond the ones I am aware of, I am pretty sure there are more, as well as a few vegetarians on our guest list.
We are serving both chicken and beef to all guests, but would like to know about vegetarian options, as well as about any other dietary needs, however, I dislike seeing response cards with a bunch of questions on it (allergies, food selection, vegetarian option etc)
Would it be appropriate to simply write “Please use to reverse of this card to notify us of any special dietary allergies or requirements?”
Post # 3
Do you have a wedding website? We put a note on the “events” section of ours to tell guests to just inform us ahead of time if they have any special dietary needs.
Post # 4
yes! i think that is appropriate to say something like that on your rsvp and i think the guests that do have dietary needs will find it thoughtful. one of my bridesmaids has celiac disease (gluten allergy) and we also have family members with life threatening nut allergies (including myself) and also some that are even lactose intolerant. we decided to go with a vegetarian option as one of our main courses as well, because some of my closest friends are vegetarian. we went with chicken piccante (free of cheese and nuts to avoid the nut allergies and lactose issues) and the vegetarian lasagna for the vegetarians out there. as for my bridesmaid that has the gluten issue, i contacted the venue and notified them that she has this need and they actually have dealt with it in the past and know the special preparation that needs to go into it (if you don’t know what that entails – they need to have their food prepared in a completely sanitary, seperate from all other food space). i also am surprising her with her own little gluten free cup cakes since i know she’ll be bummed out watching everyone else chow down on cake lol
i was getting frustrated because everyone made it seem like such a big deal (ahem- my future mother in law) that i chose lasagna instead of a beef option, but after getting a lot of rsvps back a lot of people are actually choosing the lasagna instead of the chicken option.
i think it is great that you are making it a point to accomodate them though! i’m sure that they will greatly appreciate it 🙂
Post # 5
We have several deadly-allergy people too (including one four-year-old, which always makes me nervous!) Generally my experience has been that they will ask and remind you well in advance about dietary restrictions, whether you ask or not (though of course it’s nice too, and it seems fine to say so on an RSVP card). The one thing I wouldn’t separate is the vegetarian question, though—if you are asking other guests if they want beef or chicken, I’d ask about veggies there too. If you are serving them together (sounds like?), you could consider having a box to check with meat pictured in one and veggies in the other, with no details (they make those cute stamps, etc.) I imagine it depends on where you are in the country (we’re in vegetarian central!), but around here people generally assume there will be a vegetarian option, and without an explicit question might not think to write it in a “special dietary needs” section.
Post # 6
My dad would be one of those people, and for my brothers wedding he did little things to give my dad a prime experience. Things like having 1 slice of a dairy free key lime pie for him at the rehearsal dinner – specially prepared gluten and dairy free meal…
I like the idea of the gluten free cupcakes, except he’s also allergic to yeast, which I’m assuming is in them! ugh… More key lime for him! lol.
With the amount of allergies that’s really thoughtful, although, I am admittingly choosing items that I know others can eat and since we’re having a buffet people can pick and choose their own meal.
Post # 7
I dont like the idea of making it an option for specail orders. i feel like that opens it up for god and country to make special orders whether they are actually needed or not.
if you have guests on your list who have specail needs, they know to say something. im a vegitarian, and i know to note that on any rsvp i send. that is common knowledge to people with sever allergies or eating restrictions.
since you do know ahead of time, give your venue a heads up so they can better accomodate them as well.