How to act surprised if you know he's going to propose.

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 16
2296 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

seattlenative :  

Fiance and I picked out my ring together. I knew when he ordered the stone, and when it got back from the jeweler. He suggested we go for a hike up on Mt. Ranier the weekend after he picked it up. While we have gone hiking a handful of times in the 2 years we’ve been together, it had never ONCE been at his suggestion. I knew it was coming.

I could tell he was nervous. I could tell he didn’t know exactly where, when, or how to start the proposal. I spotted a place by a lovely little creek and suggested we take a seat and rest. I just tried to enjoy how gorgeous the day was and how excited I was. It took him a minute for him to gather his thoughts, but what he decided to say was a surprise and it was a wonderful moment, even though I knew it was coming.

Just try to stay present and focus on how much you love him. Don’t “act” suprised, just don’t let on you know it’s coming. It can be a let down if he’s trying really hard to think he’s sneaky and clever. Let him have his moment; I promise it won’t make yours any less special. 

Post # 17
10 posts

I would definitely not tell him that you know. I picked out my ring myself, and knew the day/how he was proposing(someone else spilled the beans). It was still special and I still cried like a baby when he actually did it. He also has no idea that I knew it was coming. You don’t have to ‘act’ surprised. Just be in the moment and enjoy it. 

Post # 18
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I am also nervous that I won’t be genuinely surprised because I was with him in choosing the ring and I know he has it (or has it reserved) and I think about it every single day… even though I try not to! So when the proposal actually comes, of course, I will be expecting it. However, I agree that most ladies do have a sense of an impending engagement and are going through the same thing you and I are!

So when the proposal actually comes, of course, I will be expecting it. However, I agree that most ladies these days do have a sense of their impending engagement and are going through the same thing you and I are! I’m sure the emotions you feel at the moment will not disappoint!


Post # 19
2663 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

You don’t have to act surprised. You’re technically already engaged, after all. Just be happy!

Post # 21
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I accidentally found the ring before Fiance proposed and knew he was planning a brunch with all of our friends on a weekend trip, so I was pretty sure it was going to be happen then.

I still ugly-cried when he did it and had had a beautiful well timed proposal. Like others have said, just be in the moment! It will still be a beautiful moment.

Post # 22
2663 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

We look forward to seeing the ring!

Post # 24
6353 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Congratulations!!!  Your ring is beautiful.  

Post # 25
82 posts
Worker bee

minimalistbeex :  I knew the day it was happening but everyone I told (friends, my mother, and his sister who is a great friend of mine) all tried to throw me off. Much to my delight he proposed when I knew he would but it didn’t take away from the actual moment. Don’t say anything and just let it happen when he plans on doing it. No matter what you’ll still be over the moon and surprised. Early congratulations! It really will be one of the most special times of your life! 

Post # 26
653 posts
Busy bee

Yay! Congratulations! My advice I never posted was that when it happens you’ll be too focused on being excited to need to pretend to be surprised, and it sounds like exactly what happened in your case!

Post # 28
18 posts

minimalistbeex :  So how did you react?! Were you did you have to act surprised or did other emotions take over?! Asking for a friend 😉

Post # 29
328 posts
Helper bee

Destinynicole :  I thought I will reply I as I got engaged two days ago.  🙂  I knew about the ring as I got fitted.    I waited for over a month and my reaction was giddiness and excitment.   I hope that helps your friend.

Post # 30
1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Congrats bee!!! It’s beautiful 🙂

I’d also like to know how you reacted!

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