(Closed) How to Address a Couple When they Both Have Fancy Titles?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

oh wow.  I would have just addressed all of those people mr. and mrs., without a thought!  Are you close to them? If they are, maybe that is an option? I don’t know anyone with those kinds of distinction so I’m honestly not sure how offensive it is to them if they are considered just regular people for a day.

If you have to call them by their fancy names, I would still definitely call the lady judge Hon.  if you are referring to her hubby as Dr.   Easiest to keep the peace. haha.

 

Post # 4
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285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Or how about as simply, their full names, no Dr/Mr Hon/mrs…

 

Just… John Smith & Jane Smith?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@Overjoyed:  I would just write one name on the top line and the other name under it, taking up 2 lines. However idk what the “proper” way to do it is, this would just seem easier ๐Ÿ™‚ 

For the doctor & judge:

Line 1: Dr. John Doe &
Line 2: Hon. Jane Doe

For the ambassador & his wife:

Line 1: His Excellency John Smith &
Line 2: Mrs. Jane Smith

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

I would drop the titles in this case.

When both members of the couple have the same title and last name, it’s easiest. e.g., Dr. & Dr. Lastname (alternatively, “The Drs. Lastname”).

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

@Overjoyed:  Here you go:

  • For a married male ambassador and spouse with the same surname, the correct address is to “The Honorable The U.S. Ambassador and Mrs. John Smith”. The example given: “His Excellency the Minister of Finance and Mrs.___________.”

     

  • For the Judge/Dr. combo: “Judge (or The Honorable) William Harding and Dr. Olivia Harding. It’s tricky because if he is a high court judge, his name would be mentioned first; otherwise the doctor’s name would be mentioned first.” 
  • Or: “According to the protocol bible, ‘Protocol: The Complete Handbook of Diplomatic, Official and Social Usage,’ a Chief Justice of a state is socially addressed as The Honorable. A Federal Judge would be addressed socially as, The Chief Justice and Mrs. Brown.” 

 

 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

“Line 1: Dr. John Doe &
Line 2: Hon. Jane Doe

For the ambassador & his wife:

Line 1: His Excellency John Smith &
Line 2: Mrs. Jane Smith”


Took the words out of my mouth

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Are you close enough to them that you could just ask them? I’m sure they’ve either figured out how to word their complicated titles, or they’d tell you they prefer just to be Mr. & Mrs. Either way, it’s safest to ask if you can and put it the way they want it. Or they get a kick out of all the various ways they’re addressed on invitations, in which case do something to make them laugh ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@Overjoyed:  Dr. So and So and The Honorable So and So.  His Excellency So and So and Mrs. So and So.  Yes, you have to use two lines and it’s not really a big deal to be honest.  Sometimes I use 5 lines.  So long as the lines are legible and make sense to the post office, they will get sent (we send international mail so 5 lines is pretty typical.)

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

If I work my butt off to be Judge Beachbride then I want to be addressed as the Honorable Beachbride.  It’s inproper to list my name first so I expect to see it written completely out after Mr. Beachbride.  (Pretend Beachbride is my FH’s last name.)

So my household invitation would read Mr. Beachbride and the Honorable Beachbride on the outer envelope.  Then you could write just our first names Tom and Ann Beachbride on the inner envelope.

P.S. I am an attorney so it’s a huge deal to be a judge for me.

 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee

@Overjoyed:  I do too! I actually found the proper addressing for a female ambassador:

 

For a married female ambassador, the correct address is to “The Honorable The U.S. Ambassador and Mr. John Doe”. For a married female ambassador with a different surname, the correct address is to “The Honorable Mary Smith The U.S. Ambassador and Mr. James Johnson”.

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