Post # 1
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Worker bee
I’m getting married in the Anglican Church (Episcopalian in the US, I think). I haven’t really attended church, and I’ve been emailing and talking to the vicar who will be doing our ceremony, and I wasn’t sure how to address him. What is the correct way to address a reverend etc? He seems to sign his emails as ‘David’, and so I’ve been addressing my emails as such, but is that too informal? Gah, I hope I haven’t offended him :S
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
I think that since he’s been referring to himself as “David,” it’s OK to use his first name. In general, I like to follow the example that people set for themselves. I don’t think he’s use such an informal sign-off and then expect you to call him something different. 🙂
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
Agreed with PP. I WISH out officiant would sign her emails with just her first name but she doesn’t, she signs them Rev Sylvia, so I address her that way in response.
Post # 5
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Helper bee
I address my emails using my title at the beginning of my correspondence with couples. If they are formal I stick with my title and last name. However, if the couple is more relaxed then I go to my title with first name and finally to just my first name. I want couples to be comfortable at whatever formality level is right for them.
But when I am with my husband or at any function that does not require me to be a minister then I am Mrs.
Post # 6
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Worker bee
Thank you everyone – so hopefully I haven’t offended him! If I was to use his title, it would be something like Reverend David? His official title is Rt. Rev. Dr. David _____.
Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
@awakeanddreaming: i have no idea! i started out addressing mine by her 1st name. it’s really hard to tell b/c she has one of those automatic signatures at the end of her emails that say rev. her full name. we’re meeting her this weekend and i have no idea how to address her in person
Post # 8
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Worker bee
@li612: Phew, as long as I’m not the only one, that makes me feel better 😀 I managed to avoid saying his name when we met in person last weekend, and I actually can’t remember how he introduced himself to my fiance, but I think I will choose not to worry any more about it! 😀
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
If you use the title Reverend, use “The Reverend David X”. Reverend itself is used as a descriptive workd, like “The Esteemed” or “The Awesome”.
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