- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
Gonna try to make this quick. So we are getting married in June. Lets just say our new last name will be Green. I have a 9 year old daughter from a previous situation. She has her father’s last name. Lets just call that Brown. Her father is somewhat in her life, she spends time once maybe twice a month and some holidays and school breaks. Fi is more active in her life. Fi has been there for her since she was 3. Her father wasnt as active in her life then as he is now so Fi picked up his slack for a long time. My daughter refers to fi as “daddy” and her father by his nickname. She came up with this decision on her own. Now that we are getting married, we thought it would be fun to take christmas pics every year and send out cards. Heres the thing, idk whether to call them Green Family Christmas Cards. Or Brown/Green Family Christmas cards. Fi said he doesnt know because he doesnt want her to feel left out. He looks at her as if she is his real daughter but he understands that he is not and doesnt want her that to feel she doesnt belong since she will be the only one with the different last name.. I feel the same but we still can’t come to a decision. Has anyone out there been through this or have parents that had to make this decision. It seems so small but when you think about it, it can have major effects in the future. So im asking the beehive. Sidenote: Her father and I never married.