(Closed) How to address envelopes for engaged couples who will be married by wedding date

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

My husband and I were together for six years before we got married, and we didn’t live together. I always appreciated when both of our full names were included on the envelope. The invite/save-the-date was usually addressed to whomever was closer to the couple getting married.

One of our sets of friends actually waited till right after our wedding to send us their own wedding invitation because they wanted to be able to send it to our new address for Mr. and Mrs. ____. We thought that was cute of them. Is that an option for their save-the-date?

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

SInce they arent married at the time you are sending the Save The Date card, i would either send one card addressed to the friend you are closest to and put Mr smith and Ms jones on the address label.

Post # 5
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1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If you want the Save the Date to address both of them specifically I think you should send a seperate one to each home. Until your friend is married I believe she is supposed to recieve invites/save the dates with her current name on them. If the invite will be reaching her after her wedding then you can go ahead and put her new name on. If it will be reaching them once they are living together you can put both of their names on.

If you don’t want to send a different piece of mail to each of them prior to the wedding I think you would be putting “and guest” on there. I have known some people who got miffed about that in the past if they were getting married so sending each one a save the date might be safest for the moment.

Post # 6
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5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Ha!  I had this problem with my Maid/Matron of Honor.  I ended up waiting until the week after her wedding to send her STD.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

address them according to what their relationship status is on that day.  (the day you’re writing them out) 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

  In the months before my wedding I got two wedding invitations and a save the date for weddings taking place after mine, and they were all addressed to Mr. and Mrs. McVerde, as if we were already married (since we would be by the time these weddings took place). I actually really loved that these couples did that. It was so exciting to get mail adressed to Mr. and Mrs. right before our wedding. You might consider addressing your friend’s invitation that way, if you’re reasonably certain she’s changing her name (and that she’ll appreciate the gesture).

  For the long term couples who don’t live together, I second the suggestion that you should send one save the date (and invite) to the person you’re closer to (or the one you think is less likely to lose it), but address it to both of them.

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If they’re single (as in not married) before you mail anything, mail it to their unmarried names; once they get married, you can change it to “mr. and mrs. __”

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I had the exact same thing. I sent the save the date before there wedding to Ms. Friend and Mr. Friend’s Fi and used my friend’s address. I waited until after their wedding to send the invitation to their new address with their married names on it.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@meggo623:  No, you don’t need to put everyone’s fall name. Save-The-Date Cards can be more informal that invitations for addressing. If you want to invite an entire family, I’d send the STD to “The LASTNAME Family.”

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