(Closed) how to address invitations

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Which is the most appropriate form of address?

    1. Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

    2. Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Smith

    3. Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith

    4. something else!

  • Post # 2
    257 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    I prefer #2 personally. I hate being listed as just Mrs. and not even having a name! But that’s just me.

    Post # 4
    826 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I guess I went the easy route and did John & Jane Smith on mine. It’s just for a reception though as we’re having a fairly private ceremony the day before. Not very formal. 

    Post # 8
    2868 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    I went “Bob and Sue Bobblehead” on all of mine. If i knew there was a family I went with “The Buttercup Family”. I kept it simple. Eqiuette on invites makes my brain hurt.

    Post # 10
    4888 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I wish I could remember, but I am pretty sure we just used their names.

    John & Jane Doe (and family, if it was included)


    Post # 11
    6943 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I agree with a PP that I absolutely HATE invites that say something like Mr. & Mrs. John Smith. Ugh. 

    I’m planning on doing it like this: John and Jane Smith.

    Post # 12
    282 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

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    robsbeach:  On our invitations I put “Mr John Smith and Mrs Jane Smith”. Or in one instance, it was “Dr. John Smith and Mrs. Jane Smith”. This way I didn’t risk offending anyone.

    Post # 13
    4037 posts
    Honey bee

    We put the lady’s name first – Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Smith.  Only got push-back from one person – a co-worker of my daughter’s. After receiving the save the date she emphatically told her that she was Mrs. James Jones, Jr., so that’s how her bridal shower and wedding invitation was addressed. She neither attended nor RSVPd, to either one. And of course, not even a congratulatory card or e-mail. So much for etiquette!

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