Post # 1
So, I have a question regarding the appropriate way to address married couples with the same last names on invitations. Should it be:
1. Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
2. Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Smith
3. Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith
Any suggestions would be appreciated!
(PS: I am using Ms. for any females who are single or for those who I know prefer that designation).
This topic was modified 4 years, 2 months ago by robsbeach.
Post # 2
I prefer #2 personally. I hate being listed as just Mrs. and not even having a name! But that’s just me.
Post # 3
cristin94: That’s the way I feel, too! But, I’ve been told several times now that addressing it that way is wrong and I don’t want to offend anyone! Thank you!
Post # 4
I guess I went the easy route and did John & Jane Smith on mine. It’s just for a reception though as we’re having a fairly private ceremony the day before. Not very formal.
Post # 5
This is what I followed but some on here have said it is improper. Martha might be a B but she is known for proper ettiquette
Edit – wrong website meant this one
Post # 8
I went “Bob and Sue Bobblehead” on all of mine. If i knew there was a family I went with “The Buttercup Family”. I kept it simple. Eqiuette on invites makes my brain hurt.
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Post # 10
I wish I could remember, but I am pretty sure we just used their names.
John & Jane Doe (and family, if it was included)
Post # 11
I agree with a PP that I absolutely HATE invites that say something like Mr. & Mrs. John Smith. Ugh.
I’m planning on doing it like this: John and Jane Smith.
Post # 12
robsbeach: On our invitations I put “Mr John Smith and Mrs Jane Smith”. Or in one instance, it was “Dr. John Smith and Mrs. Jane Smith”. This way I didn’t risk offending anyone.
Post # 13
We put the lady’s name first – Mrs. Jane and Mr. John Smith. Only got push-back from one person – a co-worker of my daughter’s. After receiving the save the date she emphatically told her that she was Mrs. James Jones, Jr., so that’s how her bridal shower and wedding invitation was addressed. She neither attended nor RSVPd, to either one. And of course, not even a congratulatory card or e-mail. So much for etiquette!
Post # 15
llevinso: I don’t like that either!