Post # 1
Just want to be sure about this— we had invited a couple to attend our wedding. They are engaged but not yet married. The fella was able to attend but the mrs was not, which of course made us a little sad as we adore her, but not angry in the least. Just missed her smile on our day!
The Mr left a card in our card box with a generous cash gift, and he didn’t sign the card at all— the only way I know for sure that it was from him was because of a reference in the card to an inside joke.
Anyway for the thank-you card I’m assuming I should address it to both of them? I’m planning to write a note about how we missed her. Just not sure if both names go on the envelope, or if by including her name even though she did not attend that it could breach some weird hidden rule of etiquette.
Note: I wouldn’t think twice about including her name except for the fact that their wedding is in about 2 weeks and she seems to be REALLY well-versed in the secret language of envelopes.
Post # 3
I would assume the gift was from both of them and proceed accordingly.
address it to both of them
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
We received gifts from two couples who only had one attend the wedding- thank yous were addressed to both, and we mentioned the “missing” party- something like “We’re sorry you weren’t able to make it, here’s the link to photos so you can share in the day…”
Post # 6
i would definitely address both of them!
Post # 7
I would rather address it to her and be sure that I said thank you, rather than leave her off. Better to be safe than sorry! I think thanking someone for a gift they didn’t give you (if it isn’t actually from her too) is less of a breach in etiquette than not thanking someone at all!
Post # 8
Don’t ever worry about “weird hidden rules of etiquette”! The purpose of etiquette is to make others more comfortable. Always do that and you’ll ever be accused of bad taste.