Post # 1
My fiance has some family that all live at the same address. They are a mother, 2 adult children (not married), and the child of one of the adult children. They all have the same last name. It seems sort of silly to send 3 invites to the same address…. is it ok send it to The Smith Family? Right now I’m only doing Save-The-Date Cards so it’s less formal but I feel this is the way to go for both STD and actual invite. Thoughts??
Post # 3
I think you really should send 3 seperate invites, since the children are adults, even though it’s a pain!
Post # 4
I have the same problem on both sides of the family – one side has two adult (45+ age) sons still living at home and the other there are two adult female (cousins) living together, both unmarried. What I did was for the save-the-dates, I only sent 1 per household since they are magnets and I wanted to be ‘green’, but every adult will get his/her own invitation.
Post # 5
I use Crane’s for this sort of stuff, and here’s the link to the page you’ll want. To summarize, it varies based on whether the kids are older than 18. If they’re older than 18, they get their own invitation. But for Save-The-Date Cards, they’re less formal, so I would just do “The Smith Family” in that case.
Post # 6
Thanks ladies! I just realized I have another situation with a married couple living with the parents. They have different last names… it’s all very complicated!
I have not lived at home since I was 20 and since I am still unmarried, I think my side of the family still considers me part of my parents as I have never gotten my own invitation! However on my fiance’s side, I have gotten them from his cousins.
Post # 7
For the married couple living with the parents, I would do seperate invites. For the family with two adult kids, I would list their names on invite. I did that, instead of sending multiple invites.
Here’s what it looked like:
Mr and Mrs John Smith
Jason and Guest, Joe and Guest
Sally and Jessica
3333 1st St
Anytown, USA 22222
Post # 8
even for my std’s i did seperate seperate ones for adults that lived at home because i wanted to address them with an and guest to give them a heads up…
if you’re not including and guests to the single adult relatives than i would think a family std would be a-ok. for the actual invites, although totally silly, i would send seperate invites to each person since that’s what etiquette seems to always say.
Post # 9
Anyone over 18 should get their own invitation. I’m not sure if the children of the children fit that but the adult children do.
Post # 10
We had a situation with a married aunt and uncle, grandmother, and cousin all at the same address with the same last name. We did one separate invitation to the grandmother, and put the unmarried cousin on the same invite as the aunt & uncle. I think any married couple living at home should get a separate invitation though. And just for aesthetic reasons, I don’t think there should be more than three names on an invitation (unless there are a bunch of children attending who are actually children).
Post # 11
For me, if u live at the same address ur getting 1 invitation…I don’t care if ur 32 living with ur parents (an actual situation with my guests) my DIY invites are a LOT of work, and they’re only getting 1!! LOL
Post # 12
We did individual invites and save the dates for adult children over 18 living at the house.
Couple reasons. I read something about etiquette on it. The other, and more significant reason, was we’re not doing +guest, and I wanted to be very clear about it…
Also, I didn’t want an RSVP coming back with 42 names on it.
Post # 13
I would send one to each adult in the house, particularly if they’re getting guests.