(Closed) How to announce an elopement

posted 8 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 3
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

The traditional wording is:

Ms. Diana Lee Tourbin
Mr. Arthur Andrew Carter
are pleased to announce their
Saturday, the sixteenth of July
Nineteen Hundred Ninety Eight
Uptown Cathedral
Dallas, Texas

You have them all addressed and stamped before your wedding, and drop them in the mailbox (or ask your Maid/Matron of Honor to do so, if you have one) immediately after the ceremony.

In the case of your parents and his, though, you might want to call them after the wedding rather than just sending a card.

Post # 5
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Well, the actual announcements would be the same, other than leaving out the name of the location.  And the rule is basically the same–you announce it as soon as possible after the wedding, but not before.

The problem with telling them beforehand is that they may then feel obligated to be there–which, with very little notice, gets expensive for them.  Plus, it kind of undermines the point of eloping.

Post # 6
1871 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Technically, “eloping” means nobody knows and you surprise them with the good news. This can be done immediately after the ceremony (by phone) or after you get home. You don’t need to do anything else–no gifts or anything (well you might send announcements to your friends and stuff). 

But if you think people will be truly hurt, then talk to them before hand and just explain to them your plans–but do be aware that they ALSO could be hurt if you tell them they can’t come. In other words, there’s nothing you can really say if they’re hurt at the concept of you eloping–but in general, people have eloped and been forgiven. 



Post # 7
1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would just make some calls right afterwards.  I’d try to call the important people that day or at the most that weekend.  I would tell your parents and say that it’s fine for them to spread the news to other family members.

Post # 8
1129 posts
Bumble bee

My cousin eloped with her husband last year in Hawaii.  She went online and ordered Hawaii postcards and wrote them all out in advance to everyone who had been expecting an invitation to the wedding – then packed them with her and mailed them the day after the wedding so they were stamped from a Hawaiian post office.  It was pretty cute!

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