(Closed) How to approach bride about this situation

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
46401 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

“I just want to give you a head’s up that I may not be able to afford the trip to Vegas. I am going to do everything I can to make that happen , but ____’s recent hospitalization has drained our finances.  I don’t want you to dwell on this, because I am still hoping to be able to attend, but I didn’t want to spring this on you at the last minute.”


Post # 4
4520 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would just let her know exactly what you told us, that you really hope to make it and aren’t ready to count yourself out yet, but you want to give her the heads up that you might have to miss the party because of your husband’s hospitalization. It’s better that she be in the loop from the beginning — that way she won’t feel like you’re randomly bailing out if you can’t go.

Post # 5
986 posts
Busy bee

@julies1949: +1 to that great response. And better to let her know now rather than later. Plus, if she is one of your good friends, she may be disappointed but I’m sure she will understand!

Post # 6
11272 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@julies1949:  +1


@MrsDibs:  i’m sure she will completely understand. she should.

hopefully she is not one of those brides who will be offended and expects their bm’s to go into debt just for her wedding activities.

Post # 7
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Agree with everyone else. Openness and honesty are the best policies. A good friend will understand. 

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