(Closed) How to approach the B list guests?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5797 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I wouldn’t say anything unless they brought it up and even then I’d probably blame the post office or whatever company printed the Save-The-Date Cards

Post # 4
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011 - Sweet ceremony by the sea and sunset celebration on the North Shore of Hawaii


we didn’t say anything at all. We’re just as thrilled to invite them and trying to explain ourselves would make it awkward. This also has applied to us when we were b list wedding guests, we were thrilled to be invited. Hope this helps!

Post # 5
837 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think regardless of what you say people are still going to consider themselves second rate guests.  I know that sounds harsh, but that’s the reality of it.  I wouldn’t send out STD’s to them at all, and instead just send invitations.  Remember that once you send someone an STD they are guaranteed and invite. A lot can change between now and when people get to RSVPing.  What if you send your B-listers Save-The-Date Cards and then the majority of your A list ends up RSVPing yes?  Then you’re stuck with an inflated guest list that you didn’t intend to have.

Post # 7
370 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would just send them the save the date without saying anything. If they ask you what’s up with it arriving after everyone elses just tell them the truth! Admitt that you had family that needed to be invited first, and that you were very excited to get the opportunity to invite them to your small destination wedding when others declined.

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