(Closed) How To Approach 'The Waiting' Period In Your Life

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Amazing Post!! Thank you for sharing the support and the happiness!!

Post # 18
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Bumble bee

@veryberry13:  thank you so much for this. I am going to take all of this to heart ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s been an interesting weekend.

Post # 19
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@veryberry13:  This is my first official post and I’m so glad it’s on this thread. I’ve been a waiting bee for about 6 months. As we are approaching the end of our timeline (december), I’m finding it more and more challenging to stay patient. Your post reminded me to stop, breathe, and enjoy the moment.. however long this “moment” may be ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks again, doll! 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@veryberry13:  I love this post! It is very accurate!! This should be a very positive place for relationships that are less than and over 1 year.

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@veryberry13:  I love that you posted this! I 100% agree with your points and, like you, would love to see a lot of positive waiting posts and support. Even on the tough waiting days, it still warms my heart to know that I am the Girlfriend of an amazing man. ๐Ÿ™‚ Even though I’m so excited to get my proposal and my ring (especially since he blabbed and told me that his mom and his sister both have heirloom rings they want to give him for me!), I love the excitement that comes with waiting. Every day could be the day. I don’t have the stress or financial burden of planning a wedding (as nice as it seems, still. I get to keep my thousands of dollars for now), I don’t have to coordinate parties and guests and bridal attendants and etiquette. I get to go home, love on the most wonderful, handsome man, and know that he wants me to spend the rest of my life with him. Plus, like I said, I still have something to look forward to!

I’m the eternal optimist though–I will always choose to be thankful for what I do have than to be upset about what I don’t. Although, I will say that I know it can be hard. I’m sure there are  bees reading this that have been waiting for several years that are ready for that next step right this second. For those bees, I hope every second was worth the wait, and that you’ll find the support and encouragement that VeryBerry13 is hoping to cultivate here ๐Ÿ™‚

Love!! XOXO

Post # 23
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Helper bee

@veryberry13:  

 

Great tips!  The Waiting board is a fantastic place to come and read others’ waiting stories and dramas and let you know you aren’t the only one suffering bad waiting days. It’s really helped me take the nagging off my SO, and focus more on chit chatting with all the Bees. If anything, it’s making my SO more affectionate. I guess it’s the old “distance makes the heart grow fonder” hahah

Thanks everyone for the waiting distractions! Sealed

Post # 24
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Newbee

Great post! Seriously Thank you!!! And to all the bees this is a great community, where i have felt comfortable expressing things that are on my mind, so I don’t constantly talk to my friends or SO about it and drive them crazy ha ha, I can just come here and get feed back, support and know you are not alone. Thanks all you wonderful bees! 

Post # 25
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’ve always loved that this board was here. I started reading years ago, and I think it provided an outlet that’s not available in real life. I would lurk, or post, or go away as I felt necessary, but it was always nice to know I wasn’t alone. Oddly enough though, at some point I think shutting up became detrimental to my cause. I realized that as I approached the 5 year point that it was put up or shut up time for me. That’s when I really let my SO know that I was no longer comfortable with the status quo. I’m so happy he understood and finally popped the question! I guess what I’m trying to say is that although this board is helpful, I don’t think one size fits all with regards to advice. I think that shutting it up is a good idea for newer relationships, but at some point, I think you need to honor your wishes and speak up. I’m really glad I did…and that because of my time here I know exactly what I want for my wedding…:)

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@veryberry13:  This is fantastic! This is a reminder many of us present and former waiting bees could use (and could have used!)

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@veryberry13:  I LOVE this! I think that I am a happier waiting bee because of the waiting hive. Sure, I bop in and out, but by trying to be active in only the waiting boards I channel the time Iwould  have otherwise spent on pinterest… I think my SO and I are in this amazing pre-engagement stage and I am loving it! Thanks for this post!

Post # 29
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Newbee

@veryberry13:  Thank you for this, and for your thoughtful comments on my post. This is helping me calm down a lot! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 30
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Busy bee

This is a great post. I actually don’t consider myself a waiting bee and don’t want to be on the list. I consider myself “not yet engaged to the guy I live with”. I love him, he loves me, we have both proven our commitment to each other and I know we both want to get married and will eventually and I am happily willing to wait for him to propose how he wants to. It’s because we had a discussion about our future and we’re on the same page and he has proven his feelings with actions. I am going to spend my entire life with him, I am not wasting time, and if I felt like that then I either need to talk to him or leave, not sit and fester about it.

I feel like a lot of waiting bees just need to talk to their SOs about how they are feeling. You have to learn to communicate now because marriage is tough enough when they know what you need and are trying to figure out how to accommodate that, let alone when they don’t even know what you’re thinking!

Enjoy dating him, enjoy spending time with him, enjoy the present and try not to worry about the proposal so much or you’ll ruin this wonderful time you have with him, and in 20 years after you’re married this will seem so silly.

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