(Closed) How to approach..

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Call her up and say, “Oh honey, are you okay?  I love you and I am here for you!”  or whatever words you would say to express that sentiment.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Send flowers and a card with a simple note like, “Thinking of you. I’m always here to talk if you need to.”

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@hiroshymatetrastar:  Maybe call her and act normal. Normal might be just what she needs right now…

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@hiroshymatetrastar:  I can literally get you some hairties if you need.

Also, maybe your mom would know what’s best to do.  

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@hiroshymatetrastar:  If you two aren’t and have never been very close, I’d say sure, give her the weekend.

But if you two are like *this* (fingers looped), very close, call her soon.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You should call her. Who cares if she didn’t call you first? If she doesnt want to talk on the phone, she will just let it go to voice mail like most folks do when they want privacy. it’s not the time to be saying “I don’t want to call her because she had mom call me instead of calling me directly.”

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@hiroshymatetrastar:  Call her.  She might not answer/might not want to talk.  If that’s the case, just leave a message and let her know you are there for her in any capacity she needs.  If she does answer, the same thing pretty much applies.

When people are grieving, we try to find the right things to say.  Don’t worry about that.  Simply express your sympathy and let her know she is in your thoughts and prayers, and that you will do whatever she needs, even if that’s simply being an ear to listen.

 

Post # 15
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955 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Suffering a miscarriage is a very personal and private thing.

 

I’m super super close with my sister….so when she suffered a miscarriage two years ago, I didn’t make a big deal of it– she called me and told me rather matter-of-factly and that was it.  She didn’t want to really go into it and linger on it.  And to this day, she doens’t really talk of it either.  

 

My advice would be to just sit quiet and be there for her if she calls and wants to talk about it. Some women want to acknowledge it, some just wanna get on with life and not think about it all that much.

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