(Closed) How to ask a bridesmaid not to wear facial piercing to wedding

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

You don’t.  This is your friend and even though it may not be your style/taste, it is her body and you need to accept her as she is.  And trust that her nose piercing will not ruin your day or your photographs.

And I dont’ know much about piercings but I think that if you take one of those out the hole closes up super fast which will cause her to have to get it repierced.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

You chose to have friends standing with you, presumably people you truly care about and value. You did not choose to have models cast solely on their looks. Accept your friend for who she is and move right along.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

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ashleybee1212:  You don’t.  

Plain and simple, she’s your friend, either you want her with you or you don’t.  Asking her to be in your wedding party shouldn’t be dependant on her physical appearance.  It’s not like she got a swastika tattooed on her forehead. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

You don’t, honestly. You either don’t say anything or you risk hurting her feelings by essentially saying “I don’t like what you’ve done with your face, can you take that out?”

I’m not sure what the timeline is for septum piercings but it might not be done healing/ready to remove by the time your wedding rolls around. Unless she’s wearing a huge bull ring, no one’s going to notice anyway–they’re going to be looking at you.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - country club in Michigan

You might not be able to–if the piercing is new (under a year or two) you can’t take it out without the hole closing up really fast. If it’s a septum piercing, they make septum retainers which flip up back into the nose. You can ask if she’d be willing to wear one of those, but DO NOT protest if she says no. It’s her body, and you should care enough about her not to judge.

 

I used a septum retainer years ago and it worked great. It actually is what my piercer recommended during healing because it kept the piercing from being knocked around. 

 

http://www.amazon.com/16g-Septum-Jewelry-Titanium-Surgical/dp/B00XM0MK1M/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1441992940&sr=8-1&keywords=septum+retainer

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I wouldn’t ask. I’d photoshop it out.

Or “strategically” pose her. Behind a tall person. Just kidding. I get it though…not a fan of that look myself. But to each his/her own.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

She might ask you as it gets closer what you would prefer or even take it out herself.  I don’t think you should say anything, and if she does wear it, it doesn’t change your friendship or why you have her standing with you.  Appearances are just how someone wants to present themselves.  If this is part of who she is now, she should be able to wear it even if it’s not your taste. 

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

I wouldn’t ask. But if you absolutley HAVE to, if she is able to, she can put in an earring that can be flipped up during the wedding or she can wear a retainer. It really depends on how close you are to this friend.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Just tell her now so she doesn’t waste a bunch of money trying to be a part of your wedding.

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I agree with PPs–unfortunately, there is no polite way to do that thing. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

You don’t ask.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

You’re welcome to ask her, but there is no magical polite way to do it that won’t hurt feelings.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

I don’t understand why everyone is saying don’t ask (but I wouldn’t tell her she has to do it). I have a septum (the peircing you’re referring to). If we were good enough friends for you to ask me to be in your wedding, I wouldn’t have a hissy fit nor mind being asked to not show it. It should be healed by your wedding, and she should be able to have a U looking peircing that can flip into the nose during photos so it wont close her peircing, nor will it show. Good luck! 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview

I agree with PPs. You don’t ask. My bridesmaid got a tattoo on her chest about 2 months before my wedding and their dresses weren’t going to cover it up. Looking at pictures, I don’t even see the tattoo…in fact, I barely noticed it the day of. I see everyone’s smiling faces in the photos and it brings back the memories of the day of. Don’t let something so small like this ruin your day. 

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