(Closed) How to Ask a Bridesmaid to Wear Undergarments?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Depending on how large her chest is, she could wear one of those sticky bras that only adhere to the breasts and leaves it backless. These are available at many stores like Victoria’s Secret, Frederick’s or even just Target! Or maybe she can have cups sewn into the bodice? Not sure though as the material looks quite thin and slinky.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Well to answer your actual question, there are lots of options like NuBra:

http://www.nubra.com/

Any bridal shop and most department stores will carry these.

Have you by chance seen the dress in person?  It might have a little bit of padding/coverage built in.  I’m not sure I know of a tactful way to say, “Make sure your nips don’t show at my wedding!”  But maybe others could help on that one!  😉 

By the way, I think the dress is beautiful!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You can say something like “have you tried on any backless bras yet?” I’m on the smaller side of the boobage continuum, and I often go without bras. But if I’m afraid of nip show-through, I will slap some pasties on, because my boobs are too little to really sag or go anywhere, and the only concern is the headlights!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I think your first step should be to see her in the dress. Maybe it’s not as bad as you think. Or maybe she’s got the nip situation under control already.

If not, those stick-on bras could work. Like these:

http://www.nubra.net/shop/nubra_feather_lite-92-prd1.htm

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You could act all excited and tell her you really want to see it on. Then once you see it you could suggest a certain type of undergarment if you see that things are showing more than you would like. This way you will have seen it before you’re walking down the aisle, and you can suggest undergarments to her in a nonchalant way.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It looks like there’s ruching on the breast cups so I wouldn’t be too concerned about her “nips” showing.  There are great nipple pasties at Target perfect for this type of thing.  Also, it might just be me, but I would  not classify this as “risque.”  It seems wedding appropriate (granted, I don’t know what kind of wedding you are having, formal, beachy, etc.). 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

That dress is gorgeous…

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Also, do you have the details for that dress? I think I want it for myself!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

I would adore it of my bridesmaids wore this dress. I don’t understand why you think it is risqué. I don’t really think there is a good way to suggest what kinds of undergarments your bridesmaid is allowed to wear.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This dress isn’t risque at all. I love it!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Maybe just slip some nip covers into her gift and she will get the hint if she doesnt already?

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

It might even have soft cups sewn in. Just ask her, and don’t make any more assumptions about her body image or weight gain.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m a plus sized (and I mean PLUS sized) woman 😛 And I don’t wear a bra. Like others have said, see what the dress looks like first. Then ask if she plans to wear a bra or not. If not, then ask if she would consider wearing nipple stickies for the event.  If not, there’s not much you can really do.  My nipples do show in certain fabrics.  But, you know what, they’re nipples. 🙂 Evvvvveryone has them.  Now, before everyone jumps on that, I understand that you may be concerned with with pictures, etc, etc – maybe give her an extra big boquet? 😀 haha.

If my friend requested I wear nipple stickies, I would. Especially if she provided them! 😛

@Ellegee:  don’t make any more assumptions about her body image or weight gain.


This! Please don’t.  There’s no law regarding who should and shouldn’t wear a bra.

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