- slomotion
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: City, State
“Hey Bob, I want to get engaged on my birthday. Make it happen.”
“Hey Bob, I want to get engaged on my birthday. Make it happen.”
It eventually happened, unbeknownst to me he had been looking at rings and simply hadn’t found one he liked yet. Hindsight is 20/20 and I wish I would have let it go a little more.
It will come at the right time 🙂 Enjoy your birthday!
I wouldn’t drop hints. A lot of guys want to choose when and how they propose and it’s super important to them…as much as we all think about waiting for the proposal and how exciting engagements are, a lot of guys have the same feelings about getting down on one knee. You never know–he might do it on his own. I was thinking for months how the day of my first half-marathon would be such an amazing day for him to propose, but didn’t say anything to him about it…and sure enough he had the same thought because that’s when he proposed. Talk time lines, understand each other’s expectations, but don’t try to take it away from him.
Me personally, I wouldn’t want to feel like I “asked” for him to propose or have a handle in terms of when he does it. I feel like this is a gesture that the man is giving to you. Call me old fashioned but that’s just the way I see it. I’m all for talking timeline and being on the same page about the future, but when it comes to the actual proposal it really sucks the romance out of it to basically tell him when to do it… IMO.Â
My SO specifically said he’d never propose on a holiday or trip, too cliche for him. He’s also said the chivalrous surprise thing is important. That’s perfectly fine by me, I don’t want to know anything about the proposal, I know I’ll cry and be a complete mess so I try not to think about it.
No hints pleeez. It’ll ruin the surprise.
a quick update! I ended up touching on this very briefly and my bf said he’d like us to make a custom ring together after we’re engaged (he plans on proposing with a placeholder ring) and then he asked me for my ring size! I think it’s really promising so I’m really excited to see what’s next. So I guess now is just the waiting part…
That said, it may spoil the “surprise” element a little. I personally want to be surprised and for bf to pick the time on his own accord.
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