(Closed) How to ask BM why she’s not attending the Bachelorette Party?

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I’d call her – tell her you are really bummed out she won’t be there and she’ll be missed.  Then ask if there’s anything you can do to change her mind.  …. and then leave it like that.  IF she brings up any issues, then you can talk about them – but, don’t put words into her mouth.  And, if she mentions finances, and you offer to cover them, if she still refuses, let it go.  It could feel kind of crappy if everyone else is paying to know you are the ‘odd ball’ who really can’t afford it.

Post # 4
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

ask her..let her tell you why she isn’t going.  It may be that she doesn’t want to participate..in which case, she won’t feel left out.  I’m sure she would appreciate you checking on her to make sure she’s doing ok.  If she said it’s too expensive, then let her know the actual cost. =)

Post # 6
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree I would call and ask her… perhaps something has come up and she doesnt have the money right now

Post # 7
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Maybe a financial problem came up unexpectedly. You might just want to say something really casually like “I heard that you are not going to my Bridal Party is everything ok? If its money or something I can help out because I would really miss you if you weren’t there and I don’t want you to feel left out either.” Just bring it up casually and with more concern than criticism.

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