Post # 1
I want to ask my gay brother to be my Man of Honor and need ideas for how. I mention that he’s gay because it affects how I ask—he is very feminine, loves all the girly wedding stuff, and wants to be involved in every step. He wants to be there for everything and he would love a crazy bachelorette party just as much as any girl! He would be totally fine with the typical maid of honor asking type things, but I want to personalize it to him.
Post # 2
Honestly, I don’t think I’d let his sexual orientation be a factor in how you ask him. (And I say this as a lesbian.)
Post # 3
My best male friend (who’s also gay but irrelevant?) is also my Man/Mate of Honour! No bridesmaids. I didn’t do anything very elaborate. I just asked over messages haha.
If your friend prefers traditionally feminine things, then you could probably just do the standard Maid of Honour thing with him? You know him better than we do!
Post # 4
Like I said, I only mentioned that to add in what his tastes are and what he likes!
Post # 5
You could do it simply and just ask the next time you see him in person. Take him out to brunch and then ask, that sounds lovely. You don’t need to give him anything, but if you wanted to you definitely still could with this plan. And if you just got engaged and might not see hm for a bit, you can wait a few months to ask your bridal party…that’s totally fine, there is no rush 🙂
When I’ve been asked to be in the bridal party, I really appreciated getting a handwritten card about how much my friendship means to the bride and asking whether I would be the bridesmaid. But I’m a sentimental person who keeps that kind of thing. Any other gift type things don’t really mean much to me.
There are plenty of ideas out there if you look on pinterest or if you google different ideas. Not really sure what you are looking for in terms of personalization, since we don’t know your brother.
Post # 6
Just ask him as if you would ask him if he wants to go for dinner, go see a movie or any other question. Doesn’t need to be an over the top brideman proposal for the ‘gram. Keep it simple.