- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
First off, I’m one of those people who tends to have major stress meltdowns, so I know that I need somebody to take care of the details on the wedding day or I’ll turn into a major Bridezilla. My Maid/Matron of Honor is… just not the right person for the job. I’m worried that she will be percieved as “bossy” (to put it nicely) and offend the nice people who have volunteered to help out.
I have a coworker who would be perfect for this. He is in charge of organizing events at our job. He is a calming presence and I really trust him to get everything done as well as making any last-minute decisions on my behalf. We’re not friends in the sense that we hang out outside of work, but we do talk a lot on the job and he shows me pictures of his kid all the time. He’s been advising me on wedding stuff from the beginning… in fact, he was the second person I told that I got engaged, because I was nervous to tell my dad and went to him for advice.
I definitely can’t afford to pay him the going rate for a professional D-O-C, but the amount I was planning on offering him would be more than he would make in a day at our job. And I would give him a very detailed timeline and checklist, so he wouldn’t need to have specific wedding coordination experience. I would also invite him, his wife, and kid to the reception as guests.
How do I word my request? I REALLY want him to do this for me, but I also don’t want to pressure him. I also don’t know how to say, “and of course I would pay you! And you could bring your wife and kid!” without it sounding weird?