Post # 1
Alright. So… I would like my fiance’s sisters to be two of my 5 bridesmaids. I am not being pressured to do this by my fiance in any way, I simply think it would be nice. They are very nice sweet girls (19 and 20–I am 23), and though I’ve only met them once, I spent the better part of a week with them (we live in Washington, my fiance’s family lives in Virginia). During which time I enjoyed being around them quite a bit and got along with them well. At my fiance’s going away party (mind you this was prior to us being engaged) they both looked at me and told me I was their new sister. So I feel that asking them to be my bridesmaids would be a nice gesture, particularly since I’ve never had younger sisters, and I am excited that I finally will!
That said, as I mentioned above, they live in Virginia, and I live in Washington. My fiance is currently deployed, and I was going to ask them when I went on a trip with his family to the NC coast, but I am no longer able to do so. So… how should I go about asking them? I don’t want to ask them over the internet. I am thinking a card? But I am not sure exactly what to right in the cards…
Post # 3
Truly, just call them or email them. Asking people to be bridesmaids is becoming more and more elaborate, and none of that formality is necessary. I’ve been a bridesmaid many times, and I always liked being asked over the phone (not a card) because I always wanted to talk about it right away – express my thanks, ask about the plans, etc.
Post # 4
Yes, I would suggest a card 🙂
Post # 5
Thank you ladies. I appreciate your opinions. Hopefully I will get some more too (I love how active this website is!) but i I thought I might elaborate a bit. I guess I am just kind of… I think at least the older girl has an idea that I’d like her to be in my wedding… Well they are both planning on coming out a few months prior and staying with my fiance and I to help with everything, because they are so excited. But I just want to sort of formally ask them, because we aren’t close, and with my best girl friends and my cousin, I was just like “so… I want you to be my bridesmaid/MOH…” and they were excited and giddy and I got to ask them face to face.
With his sisters though… I’m friends with them on Facebook, but don’t have their numbers or email addresses. I feel like a card would just be nice… but even then, what do I say in it?
Post # 6
@mrsmilam13: I asked my FI’s sister to be my MOH! I sent her a sapphire ring (that my grandmother made and also was the color I wanted her dress to be) with a tag attached that said, “He popped the question, now it’s my turn! Will you be my maid of honor?” She LOVED it!
Sorry they’re so big!