Post # 1
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18 posts
Newbee
Alright. So… I would like my fiance’s sisters to be two of my 5 bridesmaids. I am not being pressured to do this by my fiance in any way, I simply think it would be nice. They are very nice sweet girls (19 and 20–I am 23), and though I’ve only met them once, I spent the better part of a week with them (we live in Washington, my fiance’s family lives in Virginia). During which time I enjoyed being around them quite a bit and got along with them well. At my fiance’s going away party (mind you this was prior to us being engaged) they both looked at me and told me I was their new sister. So I feel that asking them to be my bridesmaids would be a nice gesture, particularly since I’ve never had younger sisters, and I am excited that I finally will!
That said, as I mentioned above, they live in Virginia, and I live in Washington. My fiance is currently deployed, and I was going to ask them when I went on a trip with his family to the NC coast, but I am no longer able to do so. So… how should I go about asking them? I don’t want to ask them over the internet. I am thinking a card? But I am not sure exactly what to right in the cards…
HELP PLEASE!!!
Post # 3
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2353 posts
Buzzing bee
Truly, just call them or email them. Asking people to be bridesmaids is becoming more and more elaborate, and none of that formality is necessary. I’ve been a bridesmaid many times, and I always liked being asked over the phone (not a card) because I always wanted to talk about it right away – express my thanks, ask about the plans, etc.
Post # 4
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2063 posts
Buzzing bee
Yes, I would suggest a card 🙂
Post # 5
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18 posts
Newbee
Thank you ladies. I appreciate your opinions. Hopefully I will get some more too (I love how active this website is!) but i I thought I might elaborate a bit. I guess I am just kind of… I think at least the older girl has an idea that I’d like her to be in my wedding… Well they are both planning on coming out a few months prior and staying with my fiance and I to help with everything, because they are so excited. But I just want to sort of formally ask them, because we aren’t close, and with my best girl friends and my cousin, I was just like “so… I want you to be my bridesmaid/MOH…” and they were excited and giddy and I got to ask them face to face.
With his sisters though… I’m friends with them on Facebook, but don’t have their numbers or email addresses. I feel like a card would just be nice… but even then, what do I say in it?
Post # 6
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1318 posts
Bumble bee
@mrsmilam13: I asked my FI’s sister to be my MOH! I sent her a sapphire ring (that my grandmother made and also was the color I wanted her dress to be) with a tag attached that said, “He popped the question, now it’s my turn! Will you be my maid of honor?” She LOVED it!
Sorry they’re so big!