(Closed) how to ask for a lingerie shower

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
519 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think it would be rude to ask for one 🙁 but maybe not if she is a really, really good friend? Do you think the likelyhood of getting one is high if you just say surprise me? 

Post # 6
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

How close are you with your BMs?  If they’re family, it’s much harder, but if it’s your besties, maybe you could just be pretty straightforward and say “I feel really awkward saying this because it makes me feel demanding, and I don’t want to pressure you into it, but what do you guys think about doing a lingerie shower followed by drinks?”  I would also suggest a couple other things you would like to do that wouldn’t involve getting gifts, so they see you are genuine about not wanting to lay on pressure.

It definitely depends on the relationship you have with the girls.

Post # 7
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I think you should just tell your friend and see what she says.  I don’t think it’s too much to ask.  Also – it’s pretty typical (in my circles) to bring the bride some lingerie at the bachelorette.

I’ll also note – during one of my bridal showers I got lingerie from most of the guests (it wasn’t asked for but it was evening shower and people assumed) – and I ended up returning everything I could (because it was NOT what Darling Husband liked).  

Post # 8
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@CountryBee11: Shower and bacelorette party are 2 seperate events and should be treated as such. I do think you can suggest a linergie shower as the “theme” I do not think you can suggest a lingerie shower before the bacelorette party.

Post # 9
1486 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i don’ think it is weird to ask! but, i am super close to my girls… i guess it depends. 

Post # 10
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

A bunch of my friends have done lingerie showers before or as their bachelorette party.  I think it’s relatively common.  Depending on your relationship, you can mention it to the girl you’re closest with and see what she says.

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