How to ask for cash as wedding gifts?

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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Sugar bee

You don’t.  Just don’t register for any gifts and most people will get the hint.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

You don’t. Don’t create a registry and people will get the message. If people ask i think it’s ok to say you prefer money, but there’s no polite way to say “give us cash!”

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Don’t create a registry, people will get the idea.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

There’s no right way to do this. It’s a huge no

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Don’t create a registry. If people ask you can casually mention that you’re saving up for a house or a trip or whatever. Whatever you do, don’t include one of those godawful cutesy poems in your invite. 

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper

You don’t. It’s considered crass and rude. The very most you can say, and only if anyone asks where you are registered,  is that you aren’t. You have everything you need and are saving up for X. 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Massive no.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

You don’t. Just don’t register. Most people who want to give you a gift will likely give you cash. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

oneinamillion :  hmmm, this is very interesting seeing so many people say no. I guess in my family, it’s traditional to give cash and not presents. I’m Chinese and my parents are responsible for confirming with the family that cash is preferred. There isn’t a sense of rudeness in my culture, it’s expected. 

My fiance is Filipino, and his mom has weird feelings about cash. She says it’s not right to ask for cash, but honestly, we don’t have the space for any gifts. We are renting a 1 BR apartment. We don’t have place for gifts, and even if we did, we’d want the cash anyway. I think you’re going to get different responses depending on what families are used to. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Don’t ask!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

If you don’t have a registry, people will generally default to cash.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

A small registry (or none at all) gives the hint that you want cash.  Asking for money is rude. 

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