(Closed) How to ask for cash

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 17
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256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My Fiance and I did not put anything on our invitations about a registry or what we want. We felt it would be rude.  Honestly, we already have everything that we need….People have been contacting our parents to find out what to get and my parents have been telling them to give gift cards or whatever they see fit to gives.  Surprisingly, everyone has been offering to give money.  I think by saying nothing at all, people will give you give cards or cash, so that you can purchase whatever you like.

Post # 18
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

What we are doing to ask for “cash” is signing up at Honeyfund.com and putting this information on our personal wedding website.  The URL to our wedding website is printed on our save the dates.  We may or may not put the URL on our invites (I am DIYing them) but we might include a print out with the wedding website for those that missed it or did not get a save the date and this might include gift/registry info.

Honeyfund.com is not just for honeymoons (though that is how we will use it)…you can ask for practically anything and your guests can pay via paypal, cash or check.  I’ll also be telling my parents that we want cash so they can pass on the info. But, we will be registering at one regular store for only a few items for those that simply must do it this way. 

I personally don’t care about traditional wedding etiquette.  I care about what works and makes the most sense for my guests (and me and my FI).  Half of my family and guests are not from here so they have different customs when it comes to giving gifts and cash and the rest are pretty practical people, so I doubt anyone will be mortally offended.  I like to think it takes a lot of the guess work out of gift giving and they know exactly how it will be used.

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I had the same situation.  My fiance and I have everything and the only thing we needed was money to go towards a down payment on our house. 

We decided to get a wishing well, to be in place of a gift table…you can rent them and they are really nice! They contain a slit for people to put their envelops and it contains a lock so no one can open it and take the cards….you never know.

On the invitation I only wrote: “Registry: Please go to our wedding website. www. asdjfoaerigf.com for more details, as we are not having a gift table, but a wishing well instead.”

On our wedding website I found a poem, and added a little message under: 

“More than just kisses so far we’ve shared,
Our home has been made with Love and Care,
Most things we need we’ve already got,
And in our home we can’t fit a lot!
A wishing well we thought would be great,
  (we hope you are willing to participate),
A gift of money is placed in the well,
Then make a wish …. but shhh don’t tell!
Once we’ve replaced the old with the new,
We can look back and say it was thanks to you!
And in return for your kindness, we’re sure
That one day soon you will get what you wished for!

With that being said, we are NOT registering any where.  We have two of everything we could possibly need, but we would love to have a place to put it in and call HOME. All the gifts we receive will go towards our savings for a down payment on our first home together. We will have a wishing well at the wedding instead of a gift table (as one is not needed), it will be locked and fully secure, however, if you feel more comfortable, we have a wedding account you could go though instead (link was provided).  This will truly be the best possible gift we could recieve, and when we get our first home we will always appreciate and think of you! 

Our guests absolutely LOVE this and dozens have commented to us on how nicely and genuwinely we asked for money as gift, without really asking. The poem and the explaination is also helpful. They are all very willing to give us money, so they can be apart of our future!

 

HOPE THAT HELPS!

 

Post # 20
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86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011 - Catholic Church, Lakeview Golf Resort and Spa

As others said, by not registering, people will catch the hint that cash is preferred.  As the mother of the bride, you can tell anyone who asks that they have all they need, but could use help to save up for something like a downpayment on a house/dream trip/renovation, etc.

Post # 21
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952 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@bebepituca: That is what I was thinking about! I think it’s great. I hate etiquette and honestly, people want what is easiest and are worried about getting the ‘wrong’ present for the couple. Some older people may not like it but I think it will be popular. 

Post # 22
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Bumble bee

My FH and I are in a similar position. We’ve both lived on our own for so long that when we combined households we literally had two (or three… or four) of everything we could want. We decided to just not register anywhere and hope people take the hint.

I definitely wouldn’t put anything on the invitation… I personally would be very offended to get an invitation that requested cash gifts.

Post # 24
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57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Bed Bath and Beyond lets you exchange gifts for cash, regardless of the original payment method 🙂 Also, I think some bees already mentioned HONEYFUND, but that is what we’re doing! Its simple to set up too!

Post # 26
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2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

The post above should clear any idea lingering in your head as to whether or not put anything on the invitation about cash only. 🙂

Post # 28
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1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You don’t.

Next.

Post # 29
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1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You can pass the word, but I really don’t think it is proper to put anywhere cash only as a gift. One thing I would encourage is possibly handmade gifts. I have a very good friend who gives exquisite handmade christmas ornaments as gifts and that would mean more to me than any monetary gift.

Post # 30
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Sugar bee

I found out the other day that my husbands starter wife wrote on their invites:

“Cash will be accepted in lieu of gifts”

And apparently opened the envelopes at the wedding and my Fiance never actually saw the amounts! :s

So I am thinking asking for cash rotten luck, because this lovely gem of a ‘lady’ sucked him dry for a year and a half and then cheated on him. 

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Never in the invite, ever.  But we do have a wish registry which for us, basically is asking for monetary gifts to help with the house things that are not as traditional as say a blender or toaster.  We have more than one registry though- our wish registry at http://www.uponourstar.com and then more mainstream at BB&B and PotteryBarn.  

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