(Closed) How to ask for gifts instead of money?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think you put together a registry with lots of items on it and let the word get around. Im not a big fan when people put registry info in a wedding invite but i think shower invite is okay as someone else is sending that instead of the couple. Even if you get money couldnt you just go and buy the items yourself ? Or even put the money towards some bigger ticketed items?

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Since this is an engagement party, registry information should not be on the invitation – the only pre-wedding party where this is appropriate is the shower, since the entire reason for the party is to ‘shower’ the couple with gifts.

Not as many people bring gifts to the e-party, but go ahead and register anyway.  If people ask about gifts, you or your parents can give registry info then.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you prefer physical gifts, then just create a larger registry and put the registry information on your wedding website or spread via word of mouth.  Don’t put anything about gifts or registries in the wedding invite (it’s considered gift grabby).  However, you can put registry information in a shower invite because the whole point of a shower is to “shower” the bride and groom with gifts.

If all else fails, you get lots of cash gifts and get to go on a shopping spree!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yes, unless you’re having a party where gift giving is traditionally.  Gifts are not expected for engagement parties.  I never give them.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We actually got some registry gifts for our e-party without distributing the info. We also got some really surprising and wonderful gifts – my aunt gave us a beverage dispenser that I love, and never would have thought of getting for myself – I’ve already used it twice for parties! And we got cake servers, which we didn’t think of registering for.

We also got a lot of wine, which was awesome. And about half the guests didn’t give anything, which was great too – we were surprised to get gifts at all.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Do you have a wedding website? You can always put that info on the invite and people can go there. We did this with our actual wedding invites, as it had hotel information, directions and other tid-bits for all our out of state guests (my entire family).

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

For an engagement party, I would let the info be passed by word of mouth. I think a mention of a registry with the invite would mqke people who weren’t planning to buy a gift feel awkward. Our eparty is in 2 weeks & several people have asked the hostess about the registry. People who want to know will figure it out 🙂 Btw, I’m confused why you prefer gifts to cash? I don’t have a preference either way, I can use the cash to buy the things off my registry if i need them.

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