Post # 1
We’ve had some friends and family offer some services, like photography, flower arranging, and hair/make up. We haven’t discussed if they’d be giving us discounts (I’m assuming), but I was wondering how we could infer that we’d appreciate if these services could be their gift to us, instead of something from a registry or money? We’d appreciate it and it’d mean a lot to us.
I’ve been to weddings where services like these ended up being gifts. I just don’t know how to bring it up to our friends/family?
Post # 3
My guess is if you ask them how much it will costs, they will offer it as a gift if they feel comfortable with it. I don’t think you should ask yourself.
Post # 4
I don’t think you can… I would bring up how much you should pay them and let them offer their services for free (if thats what they chose to do).
Post # 5
@KitKatNYC: I agree with this. Ask them what they would charge, and then feel it out from there.
Post # 6
My Future Sister-In-Law caters wedding and bakes wedding cakes for a living. We asked her to handle our wedding and right away made it clear to her we expected to pay full price. However, she refuses to charge us full price, stating her labor will be her wedding gift to us. But, she offered, we didn’t ask. You can’t really tell someone what to give you as a wedding gift. If they have these services available (and obviously they know you’re getting married), and you want to use their services, you have to ask what the full price is. They may then offer a discount as a gift or to do it at no charge. But you have to be prepared to pay full price, because I don’t see how you can politely ask.
Post # 7
I don’t think you can ask. And the costs of these services would be a very generous gift.
Post # 8
I don’t think you can really ask. My Mother-In-Law offered me to make my sil’s wedding invites on mybehalf, and when she suggested it be “part of our gift” I have to say I was slightly annoyed. What she wanted would have been about $400 worth of supplies and 50 hours of work which was still more than just cutting her the same $200 cheque they gave us. I think all you can do is expect to pay full price and if they offer it as a gift, great.
Post # 9
Thanks for your feedback. Thus far, nothing has been offered, so I’m going with not even discounts, unless something will be offered later on.