(Closed) How to ask for services as gifts?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My guess is if you ask them how much it will costs, they will offer it as a gift if they feel comfortable with it. I don’t think you should ask yourself.

Post # 4
5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think you can… I would bring up how much you should pay them and let them offer their services for free (if thats what they chose to do).

Post # 5
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@KitKatNYC:  I agree with this. Ask them what they would charge, and then feel it out from there. 

Post # 6
9687 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Future Sister-In-Law caters wedding and bakes wedding cakes for a living.  We asked her to handle our wedding and right away made it clear to her we expected to pay full price.  However, she refuses to charge us full price, stating her labor will be her wedding gift to us.  But, she offered, we didn’t ask.  You can’t really tell someone what to give you as a wedding gift.  If they have these services available (and obviously they know you’re getting married), and you want to use their services, you have to ask what the full price is.  They may then offer a discount as a gift or to do it at no charge.  But you have to be prepared to pay full price, because I don’t see how you can politely ask.

Post # 7
3265 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t think you can ask. And the costs of these services would be a very generous gift.

Post # 8
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think you can really ask. My Mother-In-Law offered me to make my sil’s wedding invites on mybehalf, and when she suggested it be “part of our gift” I have to say I was slightly annoyed.  What she wanted would have been about $400 worth of supplies and 50 hours of work which was still more than just cutting her the same $200 cheque they gave us. I think all you can do is expect to pay full price and if they offer it as a gift, great. 

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