Post # 1
My fiance and I have been living together for over 2 years. We are both in our 30’s and this is his 2nd marriage, so the normal “new married couple” household stuff isn’t really needed (and for that matter we are short on storage space).
We really need new windows on our house, or a new fense for our yard, or update/fix our patio. I know these are not traditional gifts, but its what we would really like/enjoy instead of another blender, mixer, wine glasses, etc.
We are having a small wedding, close friends and family, so I’m sure that no one would be offended if we asked for a non-traditional and more practical gift for our life. However, I’m not sure how to go about it. We thought registering at HomeDepot would be good, but you can only register for actual items. I don’t want to ask for homedepot gift cards, but I’m not sure how else to go about it.
Are there any websites out there where people could donat money to an online fund? What’s a good way of stating this to our guests? Any ideas would be helpful?
Post # 3
@Roberk3: I knew a couple that needed to renovate their bathroom, and they asked people to contribute to a fund at a local hardware store to buy all the things they needed…they basically set up a cash registry with the store…then after the wedding the thank you cards had a picture of the finished bathroom-everyone thought it was really cute!
Post # 4
@Roberk3: You can register at Home Depot! I didn’t, so I don’t know what options there are, but maybe there’s an option for them to put money in a “home improvement” fund? Kind of like how you can register to have money put towards your honeymoon?
Post # 5
other then telling people what u would like i dont think there is a good way of stating it.. i would register for gifts at home depot. return the gifts and use store credit for actual windows patio ect..
Post # 6
I would just have a small registry of household things that you do need or want or no registry at all. And then when people ask where you are registered, you (or your mom or whoever) can say that you have a small registry at X but are really saving up for YZ home repairs. Then people will get the hint that you’d prefer cash. Also, since it’s mostly close friends and family they are probably aware of your situation (ie have an established household) and know that you probably have everything you need and will give you money anyway. It’s considered rude to ask flat out ask for cash so don’t do do any sort of cash registry.
Post # 7
@sara_tiara: I was thinking that sending out thank you cards with pictures of the “finished product” would be fun, but wasn’t 100% convinced. I’m glad to hear that someone else did this and that the guests thought it was a cute idea.
I think I’ll go with the “word of mouth” as far as registries/gifts and see what happens.
Thank you for the help.