(Closed) How to ask guests not to obivously grope each other (sensitive issue)

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 17
Hostess
7556 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I wouldn’t say anything unless you see a problem at the wedding. I can’t see a pre-wedding conversation going very well. They may be so upset that they don’t even come. Why don’t you ask your aunt or someone to be on alert and talk to them if they’re making others uncomfortable. 

Post # 18
Member
1361 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MrsTimmy:  I have no issues with her choice and I am happy that she is happy


Being gay is not a choice, just like being straight is not a choice.

Post # 20
Member
3580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

“If she was with a man, it would be easier to tell them to knock off the bad behaviour.” Shouldn’t be. Treat it just like that with a firm ‘GET A ROOM’, and leave it at that. It has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with innappropriateness.

ETA – I should clarify that I am referring to the heavy petting. I do think she should be allowed tasteful affection just like any other guest should. Nudity? Oh no. Get thee to your own house!

Post # 21
Member
10020 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MrsTimmy:   I think your best bet is to not say anything.  Hopefully as adults they know how to properly conduct themselves in public at someone’s wedding. 

Besides, it’s a good possibility the story was greatly exaggerated. 

Focus on the joy of your wedding and I’m sure if they start sticking their tongues down each other’s throats someone else will caution them to cool it a bit.  Stay out of it, you’re the Bride, let someone else hose them down if necessary, lol.

Post # 22
Member
415 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Beckster329:  She did choose to leave her marriage and be with a woman at this particular moment in time, though.  Let’s not take stuff out of context just so we can find something to be offended at in a non-offensive post.

Post # 23
Member
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If any of my guests act overtly sexual at our wedding, be they gay, straight, poly, whatever… I will have a bridesmaid approach them off to the side and say, “Please tone it down and keep it above the belt.” 

Overtly sexual, to me, means anything that would get interrupted at a high school dance. Hands should not touch any bathing suit areas and mouths should not go lower than the lips. 

Post # 24
Member
9951 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

@WillyNilly:  —> THIS

I wouldn’t treat them any differently… ANYONE pawing each other in public (and by that I don’t mean just holding hands) might garner a comment or two.  Seems only natural to me.

I’d use the gauge “if this was a guy and a girl doing this right now… What would I do / say?” and go from there…

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And like the others, I do think that sometimes these things are highly exaggerated when the story is relayed forward (its called story telling for a reason) … it really has to do with people’s homophobic misplaced values.  A couple holding hands IS NOT a bad thing… a couple playing tonsil hockey in a public place could be depending ON WHERE… it doesn’t matter if they are straight or gay.  There is appropriate and inappropriate behaviour, period.

 

Post # 25
Member
1882 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

i wouldn’t say anything. at my wedding people were making out, showing off their new boob jobs, and my cousin screamed at my friend for leaving her newborn at the table so she could go dance. Did I see any of it? no. did i give a shit on that day? no. did people laugh. yes-but it wasn’t at me. you can’t control everyone, they day is going to be about you regardless although maybe have you mom or someone on alert incase she does start behaving badly to be ready to tell her to calm down or leave.

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